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Assalamu alaikum,

i saw a post of a person who was loosing their energy to keep asking dua to come true and i saw some videos from sheikhs that remind us to believe that Allah will answer our dua.

And the point is that Allah is perfect and he does not do an injustice to people, but people do injustice to themselves.

My mentioning of the words from the Quran doesn’t mean to say that this verse refers to the described point, but sometimes i wondered if a person wrongs themselves in their relationship with Allah. Wrongs by limiting Allah, believing that He is not gonna give them what they seek, and while they ask Allah from the window of their house to make that thing to enter the door of their house, the door of their house might be closed.

Yes it might sound very simple, a belief in your head, but have you explored your feelings and emotions? Do you feel your confident belief that Allah will answers your duaa?

Just because you are confident that Allah will answer your call on one thing, doesn’t mean you have the same confidence and belief on another thing.

For example passing your exam might feel urgent for you and you deeply believe and rely on Allah that he will assist you in it, because otherwise you might fail and not get your degree, and it will affect your future and maybe you might not marry and whatsmore. But then, when you ask Allah for another thing, it’s just “Ah, Allah might give it to me, but he might not”

So i encourage you to try to explore your mind and find the lock that prevents you from your belief, and if your dua is still not answered, then question yourself on if there is something Allah wants you to to know.

The written text is not verified by a scholar, it is on you if you try it or not, and i cannot guarantee you that what i said is a solution.

I will be glad if someone correct me in case if what i said is not within the Islamic teachings.

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Assalamu alaikum,

so there is this saying in the video ”to close your eyes on what you don’t have”, and i want to understand its true meaning and how it works with the system of duaa.

my point is that we know that while you have to trust in Allah (SWT), you have to put effort, and how can you put an effort into something, without knowing what you are aimed at? Maybe there are some things that work without it but i think many if not all don’t.

Possibly it could mean that you just should give up what you want, and ask for guidance on whether it is good for you or bad, and it is not about giving up seeking wealth or a spouse. Still, just in case I don’t know something about it, i ask you to help me. Please, i need the truth, not “theory answers“

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That causes you to feel urgency to go out and earn finances.

prefer something for men.

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I ask you to not recommend me a story book that is merely an entertainment.

Assalamu alaikum,

Sometimes i saw some people asking about websites that are down and answers probably were that it is because they are from Iran.

I recently remembered that there is a way through which you might be able to access them.

the website is called internet archive, and it has this option called “wayback machine”, which basically contains versions of websites, saved/recorded at some specific day and you can visit them within that version of that day. This also sometimes might work for entering deleted websites for researches.

How to enter required website? — you just get its link and paste in the field, then you see if this website has a recorded version of it and if yes, then you can access by clicking on date that has colorful circle on it.

note — I don’t know how they decide which website to save, so some might be not recorded.

May Allah bless Muhammad and progeny of Muhammad

the link: https://web.archive.org/

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Hello, to make it clear, i am a man.

Sometimes i look at the way i move and act physically, even walking, and i just don’t find it what i want it to be. However trying to move the way i want, feels forced, and its difficult to not feel like i‘m pretending to be better by trying to move differently. As if i was trying to gain people’s attention.

I like slow, masculine moves. Well-mannered and maybe in some sense elegant, but humble at the same time. i want to work on my moving so that it is natural, not as if it would look like i am trying to stick to the rules of how to move my body.

Please, recommend me some books that would help me, if there is any.

(NOTE- I had to remake the post since the title did not adress the sisters.)

Assalamu alaikum,

I don’t have much knowledge on it, rather speculations from what i heard, but i want to understand about needs and other important things about women.

Please sisters, recommend me some books that you think is important for men to lear so that their women are highly pleased in a relationship. Please avoid giving me something that is more about suiting your own personality.

I am not sure what type of book would be good for me, but I want to see if there is some biological differences in your mentality (for example what a woman naturally tends to do when encountering a conflict and how does the true communication works for her). I also want to learn about these cycles that a woman can have and what their body needs in those moments.

I would like to attain knowledge on mental or psychological parts of a, though it might be confusing what i mean since i struggle with articulating my thoughts.

The reason why i am asking here is because reading books with too explicit content might be harmful for a male that is single. Please recommend me something halal.

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Assalamu alaikum,

Do you know any book or video that has only reliable narrations regarding dressing?

There is one page from islam org, but it has some narrations that I think to have seen them to be named by some scholar as unreliable, therefore I dont know which words to act on and which not-

I want to know how to dress the best according to our holy infallibles (let's recite salawat), especially since I think I saw once somebody saying that you should dress according to your times, though I am not sure about reliability of that message.