u/Educational-Sir2108

Hi everyone, a few days ago I posted that I needed advice because my friend Em wanted to invite a homophobic and racist guy to a festival. And long story short he ended up coming with, so here’s what happened. I also need advice on what to do next because so much happened.

So Em invited this guy she’s in a situationship with I told her how uncomfortable I was with him coming but she brushed me off because she liked the guy. So we traveled out of state to the festival and went to the Airbnb and stayed the night there before the festival. The guy, let’s just call him Jake and his friends were at a hotel across town, so I wasn’t worried about seeing him all that much. Little did I know she invited him to the fucking pre game before the festival even after Em said he wasn’t coming to the pre game and we’re just gonna meet us there. AND SHE DIDNT EVEN TELL ME THAT HE WAS COMING. Like what. This is how it played out, we were sitting in the living room drinking and listening to music and such, I was scrolling on my phone since I was still very irritated that Jake was coming. The doorbell rang and Em immediately jumped up from the carpet on the floor and ran towards the door. Me and my other friends were like, what? And then she came in with Jake and like 6 other guys. Please. I was so fucking mad so I told her. “You’re not even paying for this Airbnb and you think to invite a bunch of random assholes over?” She began victimizing herself and saying that she just wanted them to have a place to go before the festival. During the whole pre game this dude was literally staring into my soul with the most hateful stare I’ve ever seen. I was so uncomfortable that me and a few others just left early, we had gotten our festival wristbands earlier so we could just walk in when we came there.

For a while at the festival it was okay, I had so much fun and it was perfect. Until Em and the guys came later, this dude immediately walked over and began making stupid comments like. “I’m so happy they didn’t hang up a bunch of pride flags everywhere.” He was making everyone uncomfortable and I know damn well that Em knew that but she just didn’t care. I tried to ignore him the best I could but it was still pissing me off. And this is where the story starts getting real fucking crazy, because later I broke off from my friends because I had to piss and they were in the food line, so I just told them to order me something and then I walked away. I went to the bathroom and stepped out of the stall and went to the sink to wash my hands when Jake came in. He had this stupid look on his face trying to intimidate me, then he said. “Are you really gay?” I shot him a confused look and replied with. “Uhm obviously what do you mean.” And he just shrugged. “It doesn’t seem like you’re gay to me.” Mind you, Jake is like a 6’4 220 lbs guy. So I was getting pretty intimidated because he was stepping closer. But luckily a few dudes came in before he could say anything else and he just left. I went to my other friends and told them that Jake was acting really strange in the bathroom and they agreed that he’s been weird this whole day.

Eventually the festival finished and Jake offered to drive us home even though he had been drinking. I said, “uh no that’s not safe I’m not getting in the car with you.” And he glared at me and replies with. “Yeah I wasn’t fucking talking to you f-slur.” I just walked away and so did a few of my friends too except for Em and three others.
We got back to the Airbnb after taking a taxi and Jake was just chilling on the couch. I turned to Em and said, “why is Jake here I thought he was staying across town.” And she smiled and said. “Oh no he’s staying here tonight.” At this point I was ready to just drop the whole thing and just go home even though we had plans to travel around the city the next day. But I already wasted my money so I just sucked it up. Now this is the craziest part because I went into my room and stayed there for most of the night because Jake was obviously being a dick. Around like 2 in the morning it was very quiet in the house I stepped outside to get a soda because I was thirsty. I would’ve brought my friend who was sleeping next to me with me but she was dead asleep. So I walked into the hallway and stepped into the kitchen, I was wearing an oversized t-shirt and some old shorts because I had nothing else to wear. I went to the fridge and literally Jake jumpscared the shit out of me. He chuckled and asked what was wrong. So I just said, “you’re what’s wrong, you shouldn’t even be here.” I felt his face darkened and he walked closer to me. “I think you have a little crush on me Sam.” I physically tensed up. I replied with, “I don’t know what the fuck is wrong with your head if you think that I would ever like you.” I guess he didn’t take that lightly because tell me why this dude tried grabbing my waist and ass to pull me close to him. I slapped his face and pushed him back while screaming “Get your nasty hands off me bitch!” He just looked at me and said. “I know you want to suck my cock.” LIKE HELLO?!? What is this dude doing. A few of my friends came in and asked what happened so I just told them everything. Jake said I was just being dramatic and they fucking believed him, or some of them did, including Em. I took Em to a room privately to tell her how wrong this guy is, and the whole time she was saying. “Well you don’t know him like I do, Jake is a good guy Sam.” In the end I just got too fed up that me and a two others just left to stay at a hotel. And this is where I’m writing this from. I need advice on what to do, like do I report him to police for harassment or what? Em called and said that I was a bitch for ruining the whole night for everyone and now she thinks that he’s going to ghost her. Honestly, I think of leaving my whole friendship with Em because of this. What do I do? Please any tips would be helpful.

Hi Reddit, I just need some advice because I’m not really a confrontational person. So my situation is that I’m going to a festival with friends this weekend, I’m really excited. The thing is that one of my friends and her boyfriend ended up deciding not to go, and another friend canceled. So we have three extra tickets, in the group chat we were talking about what to do with them and who to sell too.

I am a guy, the only one going with my friends. One of my other friends we will just call her Em, is very male centered. Every single conversation she talks about this guy she’s talking to, it’s getting very annoying but I don’t want to say anything. The thing is, he’s incredibly racist and homophobic, I’ve told her many times that I don’t feel comfortable with that because I’m gay, and some of the people in the friend group are dark skinned. She brushes it off and just says that it’s fine because he’s just a dumb guy. I literally hate it when people do that.

Anyways back to the festival, Em suggested that we invite the guy. I immediately said no because why would he even come. And she said it wasn’t a big deal. I literally can’t I’m getting so annoyed while writing this. The thing is that I don’t feel like she’s respecting me nor my other friends by inviting a guy who’s openly racist and homophobic. She said that he wouldn’t come to the pre game but just at the festival. And I know she’s going to be the most annoying person ever. I told her that there was no way I wanted that and she said not everything was about me. This really split our friend group, because some people are siding with her saying it’s not a big deal while the rest are siding with me. I just do know what to do because I do love her and I don’t want to cut anyone out. Any suggestions would help, thanks :)

Hi, this story is a bit confusing but I’m going to share it anyways. Personally I believe all the events that happened in this story is just a crazy coincidence since I’m not a believer, but my friend wanted me to share this here.

Okay so we live on the countryside far away from the city. Me and 4 other friends were having a campfire in one of my friends backyards. My name is Sam, my friends name are Ava, Emily, Jess and Ryan. (These are not real names) but anyways. We were in Jessica’s backyard on her farm, it was getting dark and since it was march it was getting pretty chilly out. Jess has a dog named Bear, this will be very important for later. After a while of sitting outside by the campfire Ava and Emily was getting a little bored. They suggested we do something but I disagreed because we were all so cozy by the fireplace. Ryan who was sitting next to me also didn’t want to go, so we all turned to Jess since it was going to be up to her if we went or not. She was also bored so we decided to go do something. We got into her car and Jess started driving, Emily brought the dog (I don’t even know why) and we decided to head to a nearby abandoned mental hospital. I obviously didn’t want to go but I couldn’t say much since the others were okay with it. The thing about this hospital is that it’s rumored to be extremely haunted by like a million ghosts.

We were driving for a while and it was pitch black outside, I told them that I had a bad feeling about this and that I didn’t want to go but they brushed me off, except for Ryan who actually listened to me. It was like 2 am now and we started approaching the abandoned hospital, Ava was also starting to get freaked out. The road up to the hospital is a very steep and dark road surrounded by woods, btw we’re in the middle of nowhere. We all go quiet as we hear Bear starting to growl at something. We were all getting pretty spooked now as we pulled into the parking lot. Jess stopped the car and we sat in silence for a few moments before all hell broke loose, istg this felt like something straight out of a horror movie it was so insane.

So what happened to me is that I started having a nasty nosebleed, I’ve never experienced a nose bleed like that ever before in my entire life. I felt lightheaded and a loud ringing was in my head, I don’t really remember what else happened because I went in and out of consciousness. The others started to panic and scrambled to get tissues to stop the bleeding. This is what Ryan told me at the hospital, he said that while they were panicking somehow the door next to Emily opened up, she swore that she never opened it. And Bear ran out of the car while barking like a maniac. Emily and Jess immediately ran after bear while Ava and Ryan were in the car with me. Ryan said that Ava started screaming because she thought she saw a woman in one of the windows of the abandoned hospital, Ryan was also freaking out because everything was happening at once, loud barking Ava crying me literally bleeding out. Like a few seconds later Emily and Jess came back with Bear who was still barking and howling, (I don’t even know how they managed to catch him because Bear is a really big and strong dog) but Jess got in the car and tried starting it. She had some trouble because it’s manual and she was freaking out so she put it in the wrong gear, which caused Ava to scream even more. But she eventually drove away.

When we got to the ER, Ava and Emily stayed behind in the car watching Bear because we couldn’t bring him in. So it was just Jess and Ryan who were with me. The doctors took one single look at me and told me it was all natural, that I had too low blood sugar or something. I have never experienced this before and I ate a lot of food that day, I told the doctors that and they didn’t really say anything else. I was left alone in the room with Ryan and asked about the look on his face because he looked very out of it. And that’s when he told me everything that I’ve written now. I laughed at that because who wouldn’t, i literally thought he was joking, but he didn’t laugh. I have never seen him so scared before, I still believe that this whole thing was just a big coincidence. But what do you guys think? Btw sorry for my writing, English isn’t my first language and it might be confusing at times.

Hi Reddit, before I get into the story I just want you all to know that obviously I care about my best friend. I just want what’s best for her, I don’t believe that I’m the bad guy for telling her that she should be more realistic but the way I said it could’ve been a lot better.

Okay so I’m not from the US but I’m using what our math classes would be equivalent too, so we are graduating this year and are choosing collage classes and such. At our school the math class was equivalent to basic algebra, my friend is really really bad at mathematics and I’ve tried to help her the best I can. She has passing grades but just barely, the situation is that she has a lot of problems at home with her family. They put a lot of expectations and pressure on her to be great in school and choose a good major in collage.

Here’s where the problem comes in, she wants to be an engineer. And next year she’s applying for a pre course in engineering where she takes physics and math courses. She has to pass a class that is equivalent to AP calculus BC. When she told me I got a confused look on my face, because she barely has passing grades in basic algebra. She noticed the look and said, “why are you looking at me like that.” I said, “girl I didn’t say nothing. “ and she immediately got super defensive. So I just straight up told her. “You won’t be able to pass that class, because that’s going to be too hard. Even with help.” She got super mad, which I understand because I could’ve been nicer. Her response was “I’m going to pass because my dad will help me.” (her father is really smart and good at math) So I told her that, “If he was so smart and would be helping you, you wouldn’t be borderline failing math now.” We argued for a bit more until I just walked away because I wasn’t dealing with that.

Look I know I handled the situation very wrong, but I know she’s not going to pass, and I don’t want to see her waste a bunch of money on courses she’s not even going to pass. How can I apologize to her, and how can I talk her out of applying. Thanks for reading.