u/Educational_Bar_252

I've been getting emails from SIXT about a car rental in Australia (I'm in the US). The person made a SIXT account with my email (idk how that even happened because SIXT requires ur email to be verified and there have been no logins) and now I'm getting receipts, charges, etc.

I'm not sure they have access to my email because I got 5 consecutive two-step log in codes, so it seems they can't reach them. I also logged into the SIXT account with my email and it seems to be mostly their information except for my email. I have notifed SIXT multiple times and they have not done anything. I was finally able to delete the SIXT account and I still get emails about the rental. I'm worried someone is trying to pin me for charges. Am I being scammed somehow?

I (26M) have been dating my gf (23F; call her Ann) for two years. She recently got into grad school and I'm super happy for her but that also means moving super far away from home. We want to start living together and if it works out, get married! But, the town the grad school is in is super expensive and I don't have an easily employable degree (history) so I'll probably make only a little above minimum wage. This and other financial responsibilities makes it really hard for me to afford a place with her and I would be living paycheck to paycheck. I considered just working in my home town and saving up more money. Thankfully, my gf is well off and is also receiving a stipend for grad school, so she has offered to pay for my rent. I really appreciate her.

My gf has a best friend (23F; call her Beth) from when they were 5 and in high school, Ann had to move 1000 miles away (towards where I live). They stayed really close and they've always wanted to be together ever since. The grad school Ann got into is back in Beth's state. Also, Beth is doing an online program next year, so it's a great situation to start living together. They are really excited to start living together. We would be renting a 3 bedroom apartment together.

Here's the problem. I have never met Beth but I have heard some bad stories about her. She can be abrasive and patronizing to people close to her, but never towards Ann. She blew up at her other friends and her sister and it was a mess. When I met Beth on call, she was a lot. She was very loud and asked a bunch of sensitive questions and generally made me uncomfortable. Beth has since apologized for coming off too strong and she feels bad. Ann also assured me that Beth can respect boundaries, but I'm not too sure. Beth and I haven't really talked since then, but I'm not sure if it's a good idea for Beth and I to live together. She seems like a lot, especially if she's gonna be in the apartment all day, and burns bridges often. I just don't think we'll mesh well.

Ann and I compromised that while we didn't have to live with Beth, we can still live in the same apartment complex. Beth was okay with this as well. But another problem is that all the apartments Ann and I looked at are outside of Beth's price range. My non-negotiable is that I need in-unit laundry. I do laundry 1-2 times a week and I want the comfort of being able to do it without walking across the complex or worrying about it getting stolen. All the apartments that have in-unit laundry are $100-200/month too expensive for Beth (Beth also only wants to do a studio or one-bedroom).

I personally think Beth could just live in a nearby complex and she could walk over or Ann can go visit whenever. But Ann's non-negotiable is that Beth must be in the same apartment complex, because she's already compromised on living with Beth. We got into a pretty bad argument about this because we don't understand where the other person is coming from. Ann proposed that I pay for the difference for Beth.

I thought about it and here's where I might be the AH. I decided I could live with Beth and told Ann. Ann and Beth got really excited and they were looking for apartments for a week, but I realized today that I just wasn't comfortable. I feel bad but I think it's for the best. Ann and I have talked about marriage next year and if we intend to marry, I think it's best if we live together alone to simulate it. Ann is really mad at me. We still talk but she refuses to talk to about the apartment situation and thinks I'm being irrational. I think if I'm on the fence about living with Beth, it's probably not gonna work. AITAH?