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EDIT: i am not saying that these are my believes or that they should be yours. i am saying that this is an idea for a framework you could use to speak to a tucute about what transexualism is and why they do not have it. i recently had an interaction w a tucute that went very well bc i didn't directly attack their sense of identity. "why do you care about tucutes" is an insane response since everyone seeing this is also a member of this subreddit. and irl, unless you never interact with other lgbt people, you are going to run into tucutes.

differences in semantics when arguing is going to lead to an unproductive conversation where no ones considers the other's perspectives. instead of defending the transmed label, just explain the concept of cissexual vs transexual and how it differs from cisgender and transgender. then you are centering the conversation around dysphoria, without invalidating someone's identity. and i honestly do not care so much about non dysphoria people identifying as trans, because gender theory is subjective anyway. i just care about transexualism and the need for medical care being understood and validated. i do also care about cis people who medically transition and then develop dysphoria. this is because they are cissexual, and they can still use whatever pronouns they would like. i really like this framework and think it would lead to more educational and productive conversations. it specifically centers the idea that a cisexual person does not have any inherent discomfort with their original sex characteristics, and this has nothing to do with their transness. this rhetoric does not attack or separate us further, but allows productive conversations to be had in my opinion. if we decouple the concept of who should medically transition with who gets to identify as trans, we might improve things for everyone

i have seen a lot of transmeds lately trying to appeal to tucutes by saying if euphoria is present, then dysphoria is also there implicity. i disagree heavily and i think this idea is harmful to everyone both transsexuals, and cis people who think they are trans. i will explain why.

every single destransitioner has cited intense euphoria as the reason for them going through with medical transition. many trenders have identity and self esteem issues, and find solace in chasing a sort of character or presentation. chasing a result, making an extremely high risk change with severe consequences. while many transsexuals have euphoria as well, although i would more accurately call it relief, the distinguishing factor between transsexuals and cis people who end up detransitioning, hurting themselves and our community, is dysphoria around sex characteristics.

so conclusively, euphoria is not indicative of transsexualism. it is often indicative of a cis person chasing adrenaline, escaping trauma, escaping their own identity, etc. and i would personally know because i have no impulse control, an additive personality, and am an adrenaline junkie myself. (about other things, not about being male).

i want to be clear, that desiring traits of the gender you want to transition to is NOT what tucutes mean when they say euphoria. i remember wanting my forearms, and other very specific traits to match the boys in my grade before i came out. i was more able to admit to myself these feelings of jealousy and envy rather than the disgust over my own body, which were buried under dissociation. the difference is, for a trender, it is not about wishing you had boy/man [insert trait], but it is about the desire to control your identity.

if your dysphoria is "i wish i was treated the way boys are treated and had the social experience of being a boy" rather than "i wish i had forearms like a boy" and this is a consistent pattern where the "dyphoria" is not about physical characteristics, than your dr should screen very heavily for differential diagnoses imo. for a trender with "gender euphoria," the desired characteristics of the opposite gender are the ingredients that would allow them to control, change, fix themselves. it is about IDENTITY, not BODY. this is why i think the deserted island test is absolutely perfect. would you have dysphoria and desire transition on a deserted island living alone forever or with monkeys and birds or something. a trender would say no by definition.

sex dysphoria contrasts euphoria in every way. it is subtle, consistent over years, and causes dissociation and withdrawing rather than feeling alive and like you are chasing something. i believe that in the majority of cases for the majority of people, reflecting on the presence of sex dysphoria or not will help them figure out if they are trans. but no one is doing that, because dysphoria as being the main sign of transsexualism is a statement that 99% of trans tiktok sees as the birthplace of Satan.

we are not a club trying to recruit members bros (that is the tucutes over at egg_irl). the point of this community and this set of ideas is to advocate for the needs and rights of transsexuals to access adequate medical and legal accommodations. so it does not make sense for you to just expand the definition of who qualifies as transsexual, it makes sense for you to accurately explain the symptoms of this medical condition and be clear what they are and what they are not. same with people who make entire accounts around transmed ideology and then respond to every single specific nuanced question they get with "transmed = you need dysphoria to be trans" without elaborating or answering their question. because people have different definitions of what dysphoria is lol. i have met people who deadass think dysphoria is preferring clothes associated with the opposite gender. i have met people who only have social dysphoria, etc.

so, i hope this is some food for thought. lmk if u disagree or agree. but please be careful not to encourage people to medically transition if they do not have physical dysphoria.

99% of whether t works for you is being lean. anyone can get lean. i started t at 21, not in my teenage years and i pass well and mog 90% of cis men irl. the science behind this is that body fat correlates with high levels of the aromatase enzyme. if you are peeled and have almost no aromatase, t works much better. if you are fat or even skinnyfat, no matter how much t you take, much of it will convert back to estrogen. this is why fat ftms almost never pass. they don't just transition to bears, they straight up don't veralize well. if you want to bear mode, do it after you are years on t with a hystorectomy.

building muscle and working out also increases androgen sensitivity. people in this community talk about not wanting to get poon dosed but it has nothing to do with dose . i grew facial hair in my first 6 months on 40mgs. i have been so lean that going up to 80mgs (still not even 100mg which is an average dose) made my test levels dangerously high (over 1200 mg/dl). i maintain average levels of t now post hysto with 40mgs per week, same as my original dose. i have had many mf's say this is a "poondose."

you will transition well if you learn the first thing about endocrinology. learn about it from the same resources cis men do. all you need is test logic ngl, but if you try all of these things and test doesn't work, there are much stronger androgenic compounds out there (any steroid ever) and the more androgens you expose your body to, the more sensitive your body becomes to androgens over time. so androgens work with reverse tolerance essentially. you are not an exception to androgens being powerful substances, you just don't understand how to use them right. it is insane to me how few ftms have done even basic research into PEDs and steroids. it is kind of sad that the average cis gym bro now knows more about endocronology than the average ftm gym bro. make that make sense lol. steroids also have fewer consequences to us bc the fsh and lh supression works in our favor rather than against it. don't do steroids unless u have to but i am just saying thinking its "over" is so ridiculous.

everyone is dooming the fuck out and it is unnecessary. if anyone is genuinly in a rope mindset and thinks i am lying, dm me and ill show you how hopeless i looked pre t at 21 vs how i look now at 27. it is not too late and the passing trans men that you see as ropefuel are not the "genetic 1%." you all can get there.

if i look at any content on youtube or tiktok about transmedicalism, people describe us as believing "you are not trans until you go on hrt and get surgeries and pass." as if we believe people are cis until they do those things. i have been in transmed spaces for a long ass time, since 2016 at least, and have never once heard a single transmed person define it like this. not even the most radical people in the community. it pisses me off how much of a ridiculous misconception this is, and it also does not reflect well on those who say this about us. if you need to strawman your opponent's viewpoint that extent, you must know that they have a point on some level. i can't decide if tucutes willfully misrepresent us, or they are just stupid.

I have started trying to do my part to communicate my ideas of what being a transexual actually means, and how it is a medical condition, without using the word transmedicalism when i am talking to normies or other trans people who are very offline. Every single time i have described what transmedicalism is and why it is important, i have had people agree with me and say it makes a ton of sense.

the most recent example is my friends boyfriend who is quite feminine telling me that he started using he they recently because people kept insisting he was not cisgender due to being a feminine man. i asked him if he has ever wanted tits of a vagina, or felt dysphoric about his male body and he said, no, not at all, ever. then i explained why i think it is more progressive and more true to himself as a feminine gay man to just use he/him. i briefly explained why i define being transexual around my dysphoria and not my presentation or affect (he knows i am transexual because he is my best friend's boyfriend and i am out to very close friends). he agreed and said it made sense and even realized that those people who tried to convince him to use they/them were low key being homophobic.

This is just one of many experiences i have, and the only i get, the more i realize i am not going to "grow out of being a truscum" like everyone used to say. i think now more than ever with the current political climate, it is important that we clean up the image of the trans community to the general public. the safety of dysphoric transexuals matters now more than ever and stating so is not "being a cis bootlicker" or whatever as people in this sub very well know.

maybe we should come up with a new term to replace transmed since it's meaning has been tarnished, but it pisses me off because we should not have to contend with lies and misrepresentation.