u/Educational_Edge_16

Hi Reddit, putting myself out here genuinely, no fluff.

About Me:

27, 5’5” (165 cm), based in the US, working as a Software Engineer at a Big Tech company in the Bay Area. Did my M.S. here in the US. Professionally ambitious and always building something, work keeps me busy but so do personal projects on the side.

Friends would describe me as calm, hardworking, smart, and chill. I take life seriously but I don’t take myself too seriously.

Outside of work: I hit the gym regularly, big reader, love to travel whenever I can, always tinkering on some tech side project, and genuinely enjoy good music and movies.

Background:

Telugu roots, with Marathi on my mother’s side, half-Marathi, half-Telugu. Family is based in Hyderabad.

What I’m Looking For:

Here for marriage.

Ideally someone of Telugu or Marathi background, preferably around 23-24+. Educated, ambitious, and a little extroverted, someone who brings energy to the room. Emotionally intelligent, has her own passions and drive. Warm and grounded. High IQ and EQ both matter to me. Open to kids if we’re aligned on it.

Bonus if we share some interests, but complementary works too, I’m not looking for a mirror image.

Open to someone in India or the US. I also see myself moving back to India eventually after a few years here, so flexibility on that front is important.

Looking to build a life that balances real career growth and adventures with family, roots, and meaning.

If you’ve made it this far just DM me and tell me a little about yourself! 😄

I am M28, more than a year in the AM process now.

I don’t understand the ghosting culture in AM process. Like this isn’t dating, if you get a ristha and have spoken to the prospect and if you get a follow-up message or some sort of communication ghosting isn’t the right way to deal with it when you don’t like the prospect. A simple No things won’t work out would make it much easier for the other person.

Before you all say why you are following up let them follow up. Girls or girls parents aren’t following up they hardly do even if they like the person.

This rant isn’t coming from one ghosting example. I had it like at least 5-6 times in the past 4 months. This is a repeating pattern I observed.

Someday you’ll people who are ghosting will be ghosted and go through the same thing then this rant would make more sense. 🫡

Also, people please initiate conversations at least when you like the other person. You just can’t expect the other person to keep initiating. Don’t say that if they are showing interest in the call their communication skills don’t matter. Your prospect doesn’t have magical powers to understand what you’re thinking. Initiating conversations and keeping the communication open is more mature and meaningful way to show your interest.