So my friend D has become a side piece to one of her coworkers, he has been saying for a year that he will leave his current girlfriend, but he still hasn’t. Me and N both wanna tell the girlfriend because D is too much in love to stop this herself, but so far we have only sent the girlfriend a text anonymously on a fake account N made
Any advice on what we do from here?
Hi, this is my first time posting so sorry for any spelling mistakes.
I came here because I’m really confused and upset that one of my best friends of 16 years is saying these things about me, but here we go. Me and my two best friends of 16 years have planned a camping trip that has been in the works for quite a few months, one I’ll refer to as N and the other D. Me and N met up yesterday for a drink yesterday and we started talking about the camping trip, N then told me that she doesn’t know if she should tell me what D has told her when I’m not with them.
I told N I would rather you tell me than keeping it to herself, that’s when she told me that sometimes when N and D plan something and N wants to invite me, D would rather it be just them two and that she doesn’t see me still hanging out with them in the future. I was a bit confused and disappointed since me and D haven’t ever had a major problem before, I even wanted to spend the day with her just the two of us in the past. But N told me that she was with D when I messaged her and D told N that she didn’t want to go as she finds it awkward when it’s just me and D, which I was surprised and hurt by. D also mentioned that she didn’t want me going on holiday with them next year just because I don’t currently have a job and won’t be able to afford to go as in two months they need to start paying instalments towards the holiday. N asked if I was angry about what she told me and I told her that I was disappointed that D couldn’t tell me in person, but both of us know D isn’t the confrontational type and it would be out of character for her to do so. But afterwards the conversation was repeating in my head and it wasn’t until I went to bed that the gravity of the information hit me and I was questioning if our 16 year friendship was a lie to the point that I was still awake at 6AM.
So far I have already cancelled the tarp and pots and pans set we need for the camping trip that I paid for as I emotionally can’t force myself to go on the camping trip knowing that D might not be the friend I thought she was. I haven’t told N yet about how I feel as I feel like I’m abandoning her so close to the trip, so WIBTA for cancelling?