What's one thing you wish Taimi had that no dating app currently does?
reddit.comu/Edward_Reese — 1 day ago
Biphobia is still an issue in queer dating. Do you agree?
In advance of Bisexual Awareness Week coming next month, we wanted to do a little digging on how bisexuals navigate queer dating. What did we find? Biphobia is still a major issue for all bi+ folks, and it’s keeping people closeted.
For bisexual women, the general closeness of friendships with women and the fetishization of lesbian relationships leads a lot of them to question whether their attraction is real or if they’re simply performing it to impress men. We don’t need to explain why that’s problematic; it speaks for itself. Some bisexual women also report biphobia on dating apps designed for queer women.
It’s just as challenging for bisexual men, and in some ways, it’s even harder for them. Bisexuals are one of the most closeted groups in the LGBTQ+ community, and bi men are even more closeted than bi women. There are a few reasons for that, although the most significant is that women largely don’t want to date bisexual men because of negative stereotypes and assumptions, such as the assumption that they’re more likely to cheat or won’t be satisfied in a relationship with a woman. Bi men have reported being terrified to come out to their wives for fear of them taking issue with their sexuality, and their fears are unfortunately not unfounded. Others have reported that as soon as they come out, they receive less interest on dating apps.
The challenges that bi people face when they come out have led to large numbers of them still hiding themselves. According to research done in 2023, only 20% of bisexual people were out to all of their family members, which is three times less than gay men or lesbians. And the judgment isn’t coming exclusively from straight people: bi people are in a position where gay men and lesbians think they’re too straight or won’t date them because of the fear that they’re “just experimenting,” and straight people won’t date them because they see them as “gay, but haven’t realized it yet.”
For the bi people out there, do you relate? What struggles have you faced as a bi person trying to date people of different genders or sexualities?
For more reading, check out our sources 👇
https://mashable.com/roundup/best-dating-apps-for-lesbians
https://mashable.com/article/flirting-guide-freshly-out-bisexual
https://www.queermajority.com/essays-all/dating-double-standards
https://taimi.com/blog/the-invisible-majority-a-wake-up-call-for-the-culture-the-dating-app-industry-and-the-world/
u/Edward_Reese — 8 days ago
Share your Taimi story — August 2026 🌈
Met someone on Taimi? Made a friend? Found your people? Drop your story here.
If something specific worked for you - a certain way you use the app, a message that actually got a response - share that too.
This thread runs monthly, so come back and update us.
u/Edward_Reese — 10 days ago
International Non-Binary People's Day — let's talk nonbinary dating
Today is International Nonbinary People's Day.
Most dating apps were built for a binary world and added gender diverse options later. Usually, a single checkbox is bolted onto a system that still sorts people into men and women underneath. Nonbinary users stay invisible to potential matches, or are forced to pick a label that doesn't fit just to sign up. I’m genderqueer and I’ve used “straight” apps before, can tell loads of horror stories.
Taimi was built for the LGBTQ+ community from the start. A few things that are specifically relevant for nonbinary users:
- gender identity options go beyond a single "nonbinary" catch-all. You can choose from a full range of identities under the umbrella and 12 pronoun options (including “Use my name”, “All accepted” and “Ask me”).
- your matching preferences can contain nonbinary people without them disappearing behind filters.
- on Taimi In-Person currently in New-York, Atlanta and Kansas-City we feature events for and about nonbinary folks.
For users who aren't out in every part of their life: Stealth Mode lets you control who can actually see your profile. When it's on, you only appear to people you've already liked. You can also hide your gender, age, or location entirely until you're ready to share it.
What do you wish dating apps actually understood about nonbinary dating?
What would you like Taimi to change or add?
u/Edward_Reese — 1 month ago
Is Pride Month burning people out? Taimi's research says yes
Earlier this year, Taimi ran a research study on how LGBTQ+ people actually feel about Pride Month. The findings are worth sharing because they reflect things many people already feel but don't always see acknowledged.
Only 23% of respondents said mainstream Pride represents their experience "very well." 17% said they've never felt represented by it at all. When asked who gets left out, the answers were spread almost evenly: 29% said LGBTQ+ people outside big cities, 27% said bisexual and pansexual people, and 25% each said LGBTQ+ people of color and trans and nonbinary people. Just 24% think mainstream Pride fairly represents the full diversity of the community.
Rainbow capitalism is wearing people out
37% now describe Pride as "a commercial event that's lost its meaning." Only 32% describe it as "a celebration I genuinely enjoy." When it comes to corporate campaigns specifically, 23% say they make them suspicious of brand-sponsored spaces, 19% say it feels uncomfortable and performative, and 9% actively avoid brands and venues running Pride campaigns.
The pressure to perform
41% said they've felt pressure to appear more visibly happy, social, or "out" during Pride Month. 13% said this happens frequently. And that pressure isn't always coming from straight audiences or brands. 50% of respondents said they've felt it from within the LGBTQ+ community itself.
What people actually want
When asked what they'd want Pride to look like, the respondents were consistent: 37% prioritized safer spaces with better security, 29% wanted more identity-specific events (bi-specific, trans-specific), 29% wanted quieter, lower-key gatherings, 28% wanted less corporate sponsorship, and 27% wanted more events outside major cities. 33% now observe Pride privately rather than publicly.
Some direct quotes from respondents:
"[Pride] has become commodified. It's a cash grab. Meaningless."
"I feel pressure from allies to be more stereotypically gay during Pride Month."
"[I'd like it to be] less commercial. More mingling and connecting among the LGBTQ+ community."
"People have complex identities. It's not always easy to celebrate something that has caused social distress."
How does this land with people here? Does mainstream Pride still feel relevant to you, or has your relationship with it shifted?
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Source with more data: Pride Is Giving Burnout: LGBTQ+ People Are Quietly Pulling Back From Pride Culture
u/Edward_Reese — 1 month ago
Share your Taimi story — July 2026 🌈
Met someone on Taimi? Made a friend? Found your people? Drop your story here.
If something specific worked for you - a certain way you use the app, a message that actually got a response - share that too.
This thread runs monthly, so come back and update us.
u/Edward_Reese — 1 month ago