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Sally Jeong is dead. According to police, she took her own life. Open-and-closed. According to her friends and family, that doesn’t make sense, but what can they do about it?

A mysterious woman appears on the doorstep of Sally’s long-time friends, Emily and Maddison, after they contact her through a friend of a friend. She’s willing to take the case, seemingly free of charge.

Unbeknownst to any of them, another young woman has appeared in town, one the enigmatic detective has a long history with.

What follows is a meticulous investigation into Sally’s death, played out using the Eureka system. Also they kiss.

Muted Swallow eschews massive production value and scripting in favor of the authentic, sincere experience of just listening to a few friends actually play a TTRPG. The deduction is real, the dice rolls have consequence, and there is no guarantee that our protagonists will even be able to solve the case. (It does however feature original music.)

New episodes release on alternating Mondays at 10:45 AM CST. At the time of writing this, 14 episodes have already released and are available as a playlist.

About Eureka

Eureka is an original 2d6 system with a primary focus on real investigation of “fair play” mysteries, which also supports in-depth characterization and ‘slice-of-life’ elements through its character building and “Composure” system. Investigators aren’t just mystery-solving automatons, they’ll behave like real people with emotions, wants, and needs just by following the rules of the game. The full rulebook and everything you yourself need to play can be downloaded at anim-ttrpg.itch.io

haiii!!

so this year, I’m the president of my schools ally club, and as such it’s my job to make agendas and shape the club in the vision of the people (democracy rocks!! [yes, that’s a rtc reference lmao])

anywho, our first meeting is in a few weeks and obviously I want to make a safe, inclusive space on campus for members of the lgbtq community before we do anything else, since our school is pretty conservative (I’ve had teachers wear maga hats…)

and again, I’m obviously gonna ask “my patrons” (idk what else to call them) what they want the club to be, whether we focus on advocacy or education or wtv.

my question to yall is this: what would you guys want your high school ally club to look like and do?

I've been looking into labels for my identities, specifically my romantic ones. I've found a few labels that I think work for me: gyneromantic and cupioromantic.

Incase you don't know, gyneromanticism is attraction to femininity, but not specifically women (women, feminine men, feminine enby people, etc.) (also sapphic would not work for me as I am a cis man)

Cupioromanticism is someone who identifies on the aromantic spectrum, but still desires a romantic relationship.

I'm a bit afraid that when I eventually decide to come out to people, I'm gonna have to explain my romantic orientation to everyone because of the fact that these are much lesser-known microlabels.

If anyone has gone through a similar experience or has any possible advice to share, I would greatly appreciate it!

(I'm a bit new to the lgbtqia+ community if you couldn't tell already)

learned today that my husband doesn’t think being homosexual is genetic.

so I looked up studies on said subject with mixed results.

I always thought it was genetic, but it’s far more complex than that according to the studies I’ve found.

I’m bisexual myself and have always been (took sometime to figure it out, but I do feel I was always bi).

Would like some actual opinions from people who are homosexual.

For context, I have the BTS concert here in Arlington, TX in a couple of hours, and I decided that I want to get ready for the concert since it's only on rare occasions that I get ready for an event and such. When I told my girlfriend that I was getting ready for the concert today with my makeup, she kept saying how I'm not really considered "masc" because of me wearing a full face for this one time. Keep in mind, 99% of the time I'm bare-faced and only ever put on maybe mascara and curl my lashes, but that's it. So when she said this, I was confused and honestly a little hurt because it felt like I couldn't do this as a "masc" person because then I'd get identified as something else. Thoughts?

Ive had some suspicions lately, and I’ve been trying to look online for this and it’s all straight women saying if they text each other or follow on social media it’s a sign, but that just doesn’t fit a queer situation. Like if we are all friends in the same group of course they’re gonna text each other and have a personal relationship outside of me.

I want to add some nuance as well that I’m not worried about my partner cheating on me, I just want to be friends with this girl, but first I wanna know whether or not she’s playing games (I’m autistic and don’t pick up on a lot of cues)

If this has happened to you I would appreciate hearing some early warning signs and what they escalated to, and perhaps how you dealt with it (calling it out vs just letting it happen)? Thanks

Edit: I may not have explained it well enough in the original post, but I need help learning red flags, social cues, and signs that a friend wants to be with my partner and is resenting me for it and acting out in sneaky ways.

I hate nibling lol. I've seen ama and aba, but I think those are terms for another language so idk if I (a white person) should use them.

What do you all use!

Hi everyone. 23 m here ! So i had a girlfriend, with whom i have still a contact time to time (sending reels mostly) who genuily thinks i'm gay. Because since we broke up, i'm only looking for a guy...

Actually i was thinking about the fact that i would be a bit sad to never know what it's like to have a boyfriend when were together. The reason of the séparation is totaly différent btw.

And two days ago, i had like... The greatest night EVER with a guy. Like... better than any girl (purely sexually speaking) than i've ever met before. And GOD, how sexy he was !

That dosen't make me gay, is it ?

I’ve been sitting on this for a long time, and I’m considering sending this to my ex.

Hi Alex,
It’s tom,

I know hearing from me might be unexpected, and I promise I’m not trying to pressure you into responding. After this, I’ll respect whatever you decide.
There are a few things I never got the chance to say. My feelings for you were real. Over time, I realized I was falling in love with you. I wasn’t always good at expressing that, but it was never because I didn’t care. I was scared and still trying to figure out how to open up.

I’ve had a lot of time to think, and I really wish we’d had the opportunity to talk and work things out. You didn’t know this, Alex, but I was planning to make things official the night you came down. I had a reservation and dinner planned, along with a few things at the restaurant that I was going to surprise you with.

Then, after Christmas, when you agreed to come back down, I bought everything from your registry and put it together with flowers and some other things. I even kept the note you gave me asking me to be your boyfriend. I wrote “yes” on it, and I wrote “I love you.”
I’m not telling you this to make you feel bad or to change your mind. I’m telling you because you weren’t just some random guy to me. You were important to me, I genuinely valued you, and I wanted something real with you. And because you mean the world to me, I can put my pride aside and admit when I was wrong.

There’s also something I wish I had been able to explain to you at the time. I know you expressed some worries after we were intimate—that I might leave after seeing your body, and then the next day that maybe all I wanted was sex. Alex, that couldn’t have been further from the truth.
The truth is, I couldn’t keep my hands off you because by then it wasn’t just physical attraction anymore. I felt a deep connection with you, and I wanted to be close to you in every way. All I wanted was you, and you were on my mind constantly. What I felt for you was so much deeper than sex.

One of the reasons I reacted the way I did is because I’ve lost a lot of people in my life—my mom, my dad, family, friends, and the only other mother figure I had. The thought of losing someone I loved again really scared me. I saw so much value in you, and I didn’t want to lose you.
There’s one other thing I want you to know, Alex. Before you came down, I was dealing with some serious things mentally that you didn’t know about, and I wasn’t truly myself at the time. It affected the way I was thinking and reacting more than I realized. I’m not saying that as an excuse, because I still take responsibility for how I handled things. There’s more I’d like to explain, but I’d rather talk about that privately over the phone if you’re ever open to it.

I owe you an apology for the way I handled things. I don’t know if I triggered something in you or brought up things from your past, but if I hurt you, I’m genuinely sorry. I never meant to hurt you.

And lastly, regarding your mental health, I know you told me you were depressed, and I wish you had felt comfortable enough to tell me sooner. I don’t know exactly what I could have done, but I wanted you to know that you could have leaned on me. I would have sat with you, taken you to an appointment, helped you with your medications, or simply been there when things were hard. I know how much you value your independence, and I never wanted to take that away from you. I just wanted you to know that you didn’t have to carry everything alone. You could have shared the load with me, even on the bad days. I would have stood beside you because you were worth it.

The truth is, I was trying to tell you that I loved you. I just didn’t have the language for it, and my words weren’t coming out the way I intended. I got scared, and I handled that fear badly.

I really would like to talk if you’re open to it. If you still have my number, please feel free to text me. If you don’t want to, I’ll respect that.

My biggest regret is that I never got the chance to tell you that I love you. I couldn’t let all this time pass without letting you know how I truly felt about you.

And I’m sorry, Alex. I never meant to hurt you. I don’t know everything you’ve been through or everything you’ve carried, but for what it’s worth, I want to know. I want to understand you, support you, and be someone who makes you feel safe enough to be yourself. I want to kiss your scars and remind you that you don’t have to hide them from me.

At the end of the day, all I wanted was to love on you.
Take care.
And I love you and miss you, Alex.
Best,
tom.

**Brief context:** We dated and I became very serious about him. Things changed after he sent me a TikTok about partners being independent. Because of my history of loneliness and losing people I loved, I took it as him saying I was too dependent or smothering him. It really hurt me, and we became distant for about a week.
I eventually sent him a long message explaining why it affected me.

I was also struggling mentally and wasn’t myself at the time. Shortly afterward, he ended the relationship, saying he wasn’t ready for a relationship and that I had triggered things related to his PTSD.

What made it harder was finding out later that he had apparently been considering ending things for weeks. He blocked me afterward, and I never really got the chance to have an honest conversation or explain what was happening on my end.

It’s been months, and I still feel like there are things I needed to say. I’m not necessarily trying to get him back—I mostly want him to know that my feelings were genuine, that I’m sorry for the ways I hurt him, and that there was more going on beneath my reaction than he probably realized.
Should I send this message, or would it be a mistake?

So...I'm sure most of us would deny knowing this in public.

But if you watch this movie it'll be a confronting reminder of just how homohobic conversations were right up until some time in the 2010s?

At some stage suddenly the government messaging went through and it became taboo to use gay slurs and make fun of people for being gay.

Kiss Kiss Bang Bang features some scenes of people making fun of Gay Perry that was a bit of a shock for me to see.

At first I was like. Wtf?

But then it took me back to the days when people would be using gay slurs in casual conversation. In a joking way. And also to mock someone's masculinity or ability.

I wonder if the younger generations who grew up being told gay was ok in school by their teachers would find it bizarre that there was an age when homophobia was "normalised"?

Also notable in this movie are no positive black male characters.

And bizarrely two different thugs played by black males who get shot by the white protaganist. One beaten as well.

Now I'm a guy that complains that Nolan's The Odyssey is too woke.

But watching Kiss Kiss Bang Bang the above really stood out.

How far we've come ay?