u/Effective-Cup8329

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age gap, need advice

I need moral and reasonable opinions on my age gap, it’s 2.5 years. i’m currently 20 and she’s 17 going to then 18 in july. I don’t personally see an issue, we’ve dated in highschool aswell when i was 17 and she was 15 and there was no issues. However I feel like my friends would look down on me for this, i get nervous to bring them around her in case her age gets brought up which seems ridiculous and like i’m doing something wrong, but i just have anxiety about other people’s opinions especially since i was bullied a bit in highschool for the age gap.

The main people that give me faith that this isn’t something morally wrong, is the fact that her parents approve, mine do, and my therapist constantly tells me there’s nothing wrong with the age gap. Which I do trust her. But at the same time people see it different ways, it’s creating a ton of anxiety and stress, I have to go to her highschool graduation and I graduated 2 years ago, feels kind of weird, i don’t know. I don’t want to see old peers or teachers there as I’m anxious for them to see me with her and form an opinion. Again I don’t see anything wrong and I don’t feel like we are on two different maturity levels, she relates to me a lot and understands me, I forget about her age all the time. That being said if the age gap is morally wrong then that doesn’t matter. I’m rambling but please anybody’s opinions help.

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u/Effective-Cup8329 — 2 days ago

My girlfriend is beautiful, I wish I was too

I have no idea how to manage my bdd especially when it makes me feel like I don’t deserve her. Why can’t I just be content, this mental illness is horrific, I can’t tell if I look okay or not it’s a nightmare every single day. Every day I get a ton of anxiety about seeing myself in the mirror. Then when I do I either think I look good or not, when I look good I feel like I must be delusional.

I met my gfs brother the other day and he was just laughing the entire time he talked to me, I’m trying to process it but I can’t it seems like the truth is that I look funny. So I don’t deserve her if her family can’t even respect me because of how I look.

Does anybody have a similar experience where they can help me?

I’m stuck in a loop with my bdd it constantly brings me into depressions and I’m so scared I won’t be able to improve my life for her. I feel like I want to do everything I can to improve mine and hers life but as of right now I am nothing because of how much this illness has sheltered me.

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u/Effective-Cup8329 — 11 days ago