School Ceremony
I need some advice because i’m probably not thinking clearly. My daughter is having her kindergarten ceremony soon to move onto the first grade. My daughter’s aunt(her father’s side) has made it very clear she wants to attend. I’m fully on board with her coming. I’m only allowed four people to attend the ceremony(just found this out). So i had thought “oh wow great now my parents can come!” Apparently my daughter’s father had taken the day off to attend and expects to be put on the RSVP list. I didn’t know he had done that nor did i think he’d even wanna go. Only reason I know is because his mother actually told me this and to put him as one of the four people. She’s actually the one who told me how many people could attend. So i’m only left with one spot. Here’s the part where i need advice on. Would i be wrong to not put him as one of the people? i know hes the dad but he’s not exactly active in my daughters life. He’s never attended any other school events so i didn’t expect him to attend this. I don’t even know why he took the day off if he didn’t even know how many people could attend. i feel like he just expected me to immediately put him on there without even communicating with me. which i don’t know why he would expect that. Had the school said only two people could attend then it would’ve been just me and the aunt. Since she was very excited, plus i’d already agreed she could come. I’d just show my parents pictures/videos later. Since it’s four, then the people who are active with my daughter could attend. Except now i’m expecting to add someone who doesn’t even see my daughter and take off one of my parents who does. i’m just really annoyed because it feels like he’s only active when it’s convenient. Like he only wants to be there for the pictures to act like he’s been there the whole time. Birthday parties, Easter, Christmas and now this ceremony. Like all those events his mother is the one to reach out to see if they could see my daughter. I feel if he really wanted to attend he would’ve said something himself. I’m thinking of just putting myself, aunt and my parents as the RSVPs. I know my daughter wouldn’t miss her dad from being there as again he’s never attended anything. But I’m still annoyed by the random audacity so i don’t believe i’m thinking straight here. I just don’t want to make the wrong decision. What should i do?
*its important to note that the RSVPs were due last week but my daughters teacher wasn’t given the papers till today. so i have to turn it in tomorrow if i want to attend friday.