u/Either-Tough-8772

I’ve noticed I barely hesitate spending $500 on something I researched and know I’ll use for years, but a random $14.99 subscription irritates me way more.

Went through my card recently and found a cloud storage plan, Paramount+, a gym app and some stupid premium weather app I forgot I even had. It was only around $55 a month total, so nothing that was destroying my budget, but almost $700 a year for stuff I barely noticed.

Cancelled most of it and just threw the same amount into savings automatically. I already have some money saved so it’s not really about needing the $55, I think I just hate paying indefinitely for things.

I moved into my apartment about four months ago and the previous tenant still gets random mail here. At first it was just bank letters and catalogs, so I kept writing return to sender.

Recently its turned into actual packages. Last week a pair of headphones showed up, then yesterday a brand new espresso machine. The previous tenant somehow found my number through our landlord and texted asking me to leave everything outside the building so he can collect it later. He said changing the address on all his accounts is a pain and he’ll get around to it eventually.

I don’t feel comfortable leaving expensive stuff outside or being responsible for it. I’ve got some money saved but definitely not enough to replace a $700 machine if it disappears and he decides to blame me. The landlord says its between us and doesnt want to get involved.

Should I tell him I’m refusing all future deliveries, or just stop responding and return everything that arrives?

Back in January I went away for a week and let my buddy borrow my car to get to work. He offered to throw in some money for it but I told him not to worry, I had some savings and wasn't gonna be using it anyway so it made no sense to charge him.

He returned it fine, full tank, no issues. We never really talked about it after that.

Few weeks ago I got some random notification from the My BMW app that I never opened and went in to check it. One thing led to another and I ended up scrolling through the trips section from around that time.

There were a bunch of trips in January I didn't recognize. Googled one of the addresses and its a casino about 35 mins away. Four separate visits that week.

Thing is this guy told our whole friend group almost 2 years ago that he stopped gambling. Made a whole thing out of it, we were all supportive, genuinely proud of him.

I wasnt snooping, its my own car and my own app. But now im just sitting on this not knowing what to do. Like do I say something and risk making everything weird, or do I just close the app and pretend I never saw it. I actually care about this guy which is what makes it harder.