u/EitherPersonality576

Hi,
I’m starting Digital Systems & Design or Computational Engineering next year and I’m trying to figure out what laptop to get.
My main use for it will be school stuff. For example taking notes, coding, assignments, and whatever programs or projects I’ll need during the degree.

What laptops would you recommend? Do I need something really strong with gpu etc? If you’re studying something similar, what are you using and how has it been?

I already have a desktop PC at home, so I don’t needs anything crazy for gaming, but it’d be nice if i can play low system requirement games and watching series in my free time.

Thanks!

First of all, I will try to explain the situation as briefly and clearly as possible.

We were in a relationship for about a year, but we had known each other for around 1.5 years. Before we started dating, we were friends. She broke up with me a week ago.

Before this relationship, I did not know much about relationship dynamics or attachment styles. However, during and after the relationship, I learned a lot. My ex-girlfriend used to say that I have an anxious attachment style and that she has an avoidant attachment style, and I believe that is accurate.

As for why she broke up with me, one of the reasons she gave was that after our arguments, I was unable to give her the space and time she needed. We both thought this was related to my anxious attachment and her avoidant attachment. We had actually discussed this issue before and came up with a solution. However, sometimes it worked and sometimes it did not. Unfortunately, during our last argument, the solution we had agreed upon did not work, and that argument ultimately led to the breakup.

Another reason she gave was that everything that had happened had hurt her deeply. She told me that she could no longer change her mind about it. She said that she could not let go of the things that had happened and that everything had simply become too much for her.

I told her that we were already working on these issues and that we could continue moving forward by learning from our past mistakes. I even begged her to reconsider. However, she said that her decision was final and that breaking up was the best option for both of us because we were unable to meet each other's needs.

While breaking up with me, she also told me several times that she still loved me. She was very clear about it and said that she was ending the relationship despite still having feelings for me. This has left me feeling confused because I struggle to understand why someone would choose to leave a person they still love.

It has now been one week since the breakup, and we have been in no contact since then. I still have a few belongings at her place. When I asked about getting them back, she told me that she is currently not in a position where she is not able to meet me face-to-face due to high emotions and that she will let me know when she feels ready. However, I have not heard from her since.

I really want to message her and ask how she is doing. Do you think I should?

If there is any additional information that would help you better understand the situation, or if anything is unclear, I would be happy to provide more details.

Edit: She still hasn't removed the photos of us together from her social media, including the ones where we're kissing. She also hasn't blocked me anywhere.