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I (21F) think my mom (40sF) has a drinking problem and I have no idea how to address it or what to do.

She’s been drinking at night for a decade now, but I hadn’t really been clued in until recently as I’m living at home post grad and have had some conversations with my grandma about it. In middle school I just thought she was really tired at night, but it turns out she was regularly drinking entire bottles of wine. In high school she remarried and I didn’t spend much time with her at night, so I didn’t really see it.

Now that I’m also an adult, I notice some concerning things:

1. Every time we go to a restaurant she gets alcohol. Frequently, when it’s time to pay and we’ve been sitting for a while, she’ll order another drink right before we leave and we have to sit there and wait. It just seems… odd?

2. I’ve started noticing how quickly alcohol disappears from the house. A 750 mL bottle of bourbon disappeared within a few days, and the second she runs out of beer there are new six packs or another bottle of wine.

3. At night she slurs her speech, her eyes get glossy, and she just doesn’t seem fully there.

4. During house repairs we stayed in a hotel and she was sneaking bottles of alcohol under blankets into the hotel because she thought I wouldn’t notice. She also drank wine out of coffee mugs.

5. On multiple occasions she’s fallen asleep in strange places. One night she fell asleep on the couch and, when I woke her, she said she didn’t know why she’d fallen asleep there before stumbling upstairs. Tonight I came upstairs after working and found her asleep in my bed. I woke her up and asked why she was there, and she just said “I don’t know,” then walked back to her room.

A few months ago I brought up her drinking after she had gotten extremely drunk the night before (I even had a video of her stumbling around the house and speaking incoherently). Shortly after that she got medication that was supposed to reduce her urge to drink. It seemed to work for a while, but now she’s back to drinking daily (usually at least 2 drinks, often more).

I guess I’m looking for confirmation that this is as bad as it feels. She’s extremely high functioning during the day, and it seems like if she had to she could snap out of the haze, but I’m worried about her health and about my 5 year old sister. My grandma has also told me she’s worried and hoped my mom might listen to me.

I don’t know if I’m overreacting, if this sounds like a drinking problem, or what I’m even supposed to do. My mom is very sensitive to criticism, so I don’t know whether I should bring it up again or just leave it alone (part of me is worried she’ll just get better at hiding it)

I (21F) think my mom (40sF) has a drinking problem and I have no idea how to address it or what to do.
She’s been drinking at night for a decade now, but I hadn’t really been clued in until recently as I’m living at home post grad and have had some conversations with my grandma about it. In middle school I just thought she was really tired at night, but it turns out she was regularly drinking entire bottles of wine. In high school she remarried and I didn’t spend much time with her at night, so I didn’t really see it.

Now that I’m also an adult, I notice some concerning things:

1. Every time we go to a restaurant she gets alcohol. Frequently, when it’s time to pay and we’ve been sitting for a while, she’ll order another drink right before we leave and we have to sit there and wait. It just seems… odd?

2. I’ve started noticing how quickly alcohol disappears from the house. A 750 mL bottle of bourbon disappeared within a few days, and the second she runs out of beer there are new six packs or another bottle of wine.

3. At night she slurs her speech, her eyes get glossy, and she just doesn’t seem fully there.

4. During house repairs we stayed in a hotel and she was sneaking bottles of alcohol under blankets into the hotel because she thought I wouldn’t notice. She also drank wine out of coffee mugs.

5. On multiple occasions she’s fallen asleep in strange places. One night she fell asleep on the couch and, when I woke her, she said she didn’t know why she’d fallen asleep there before stumbling upstairs. Tonight I came upstairs after working and found her asleep in my bed. I woke her up and asked why she was there, and she just said “I don’t know,” then walked back to her room.

A few months ago I brought up her drinking after she had gotten extremely drunk the night before (I even had a video of her stumbling around the house and speaking incoherently). Shortly after that she got medication that was supposed to reduce her urge to drink. It seemed to work for a while, but now she’s back to drinking daily (usually at least 2 drinks, often more).

I guess I’m looking for confirmation that this is as bad as it feels. She’s extremely high functioning during the day, and it seems like if she had to she could snap out of the haze, but I’m worried about her health and about my 5 year old sister. My grandma has also told me she’s worried and hoped my mom might listen to me.

I don’t know if I’m overreacting, if this sounds like a drinking problem, or what I’m even supposed to do. My mom is very sensitive to criticism, so I don’t know whether I should bring it up again or just leave it alone (part of me is worried she’ll just get better at hiding it).

Any advice would be really appreciated.

Can anybody explain what this notice means? I’m a recent grad and applied for a G7 position, but got this email:

“Am I eligible for the position?

The eligibility rating below is based on your answers to the Occupational Questionnaire that was part of your application package and your submission of the required documents as shown in the job announcement.

Ineligible for the following position or positions:
GS-0107-7; You must complete additional assessments in order to be considered for this position.”

I’m just sort of confused on what this means—was there some error and I didn’t get this assessment or…..? Any help would be super appreciated!