He invited people over without asking
30F 40M, Together 11 years My husband was talking to my family like I dont exist asking if we can go boating one weekend because his sister and her bf want to come down and go. He never asks me if its OK. I Express my feelings toward it then and he ignores what I have to say. Later we have scheduled time off from work and plan to go boating and have some plans for the week already for most of the week. The last day of our plans he tells me his sister and her partner are coming. I say what?? You never asked me if they could come. You brought it up to my family in front of me and I said no. He says because you would of said no. I told him of course they want to come down here. Its a free vacation where they stay in our home and use my family's boat and they never even offer to pay for a meal or anything. She was just here a few months ago and he treated me awful in front of her and paid for her meals. I told him I never have people stay here but you do all the time and he knows I dont like it but I've tolerated it. I dont think I should have to anymore when he didnt even ask if it was okay. I told him I didnt take time off to hang out with them. I wanted to do other things and also them staying the whole weekend inconvences me. He complains he hung out with my family recently but it was something we planned and agreed to together not something I just decided. I told him to have them stay at a hotel then. He refuses. And then flipped the whole script on me saying hes not doing anything we planned now and never hanging out with me again. All because of that and that I said I made plans for us already the day theyre coming. He says I did it out of spite. I said you told them they could come out of spite. You didn't even bother to ask your WIFE if it was OK. He wont talk to me now and is playing victim. Not sure what to do.... This is typical behavior where he puts his family first over the one he created. I tempted to message her not to come but idk....