u/Electrical_Fact7808

Let me preface this with some context, me (20F) and my family used to live with my grandfather. We each had separate sides of the house we lived on as our own space but we always ate together and went to say hello to each other. This is where the dogs come in, when I was a kid my uncle had a dog who got pregnant so my grandpa and my family took some puppies of the litter. My grandpa took two dogs and my family took one dog.

A very long time after my grandmother died, my grandfather started dating again and met his now girlfriend. She’s nice and they seem very happy together but slowly my grandfather was home less and less and his dogs would howl by the door for hours. Flash to now and he’s bought a new house and moved in with her, but isn’t taking his dogs because I’m assuming she doesn’t like them.

Meaning that my family is now in charge of three elderly dogs. Ever since my grandfather has moved out their behavior has been really terrible, I think they’re lashing out because he left them but what they’ll do is poop inside when we won’t give them human food (my grandfather used to give them stuff from his dinner plate) or if one of us leaves the house they’ll poop and pee everywhere. We let them out in the backyard very regularly and even more so now that this has begun to happen. My Dog has begun to start getting aggressive with them suddenly and my whole family had to put a cage around our dinner table to stop them from pooping under it in the middle of dinner. Whenever my grandfather visits they’re good for the time he’s here but the moment he leaves they poop everywhere again.

I’m not blaming the dogs, if anything it’s my grandfathers fault for spoiling them so much and then leaving them with people who don’t spoil them. I’ve tried talking about it with my grandpa but my Dad always butts in and downplays it because he doesn’t want to upset my grandfather despite the fact we all know that my grandpas dogs are the main ones acting out.

All this to say I really need advice on this. I love these dogs but everyone in my house is being driven crazy. I’ve cross posted this on the advice subreddit but I can use as much help as I can get. I could use some different perspectives.

Let me preface this with some context, me (20F) and my family used to live with my grandfather. We each had separate sides of the house we lived on as our own space but we always ate together and went to say hello to each other. This is where the dogs come in, when I was a kid my uncle had a dog who got pregnant so my grandpa and my family took some puppies of the litter. My grandpa took two dogs and my family took one dog.

A very long time after my grandmother died, my grandfather started dating again and met his now girlfriend. She’s nice and they seem very happy together but slowly my grandfather was home less and less and his dogs would howl by the door for hours. Flash to now and he’s bought a new house and moved in with her, but isn’t taking his dogs because I’m assuming she doesn’t like them.

Meaning that my family is now in charge of three elderly dogs. Ever since my grandfather has moved out their behavior has been really terrible, I think they’re lashing out because he left them but what they’ll do is poop inside when we won’t give them human food (my grandfather used to give them stuff from his dinner plate) or if one of us leaves the house they’ll poop and pee everywhere. We let them out in the backyard very regularly and even more so now that this has begun to happen. My Dog has begun to start getting aggressive with them suddenly and my whole family had to put a cage around our dinner table to stop them from pooping under it in the middle of dinner. Whenever my grandfather visits they’re good for the time he’s here but the moment he leaves they poop everywhere again.

I’m not blaming the dogs, if anything it’s my grandfathers fault for spoiling them so much and then leaving them with people who don’t spoil them. I’ve tried talking about it with my grandpa but my Dad always butts in and downplays it because he doesn’t want to upset my grandfather despite the fact we all know that my grandpas dogs are the main ones acting out.

All this to say I really need advice on this. I love these dogs but everyone in my house is being driven crazy. I could use some different perspectives.