u/Electronic-Box675

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As a guy that struggled with their libido I’ll tell you exactly what to do to get it back

A lot of people are under the impression that they’re libido is chronically lowered like an after affect of a medical pill but that’s far from the truth, the reason your libido is so low is because you’re constantly suppressing your arousal. You might not notice it at this point because it’s become automatic, you still feel normal and don’t feel like you’re actively blocking your arousal but you are

You basically have the brakes on for your arousal 24/7, I’m not sure of the female anatomy as I’m a man but for me I know I’d subconsciously squeeze my penis internally in case something triggering randomly appeared and doing this for too long will cause you to feel like your libido is gone when it’s not, you’ve just trained your body to suppress arousal

To stop this you have to actively let yourself feel arousal, even if it’s bad, even if it’s triggering trust me eventually those feeling will stop or getting significant less intense but the more you suppress your arousal the worse it’ll get because it’s actually bad for your body, I get why you do it, because it feels safe and you want to avoid getting triggered but it’s bad in the long run and a compulsion

But it takes time and practise, you can’t immediately shut off the suppression especially if you’ve been doing it for a long time, I noticed a hack for me is when I see something triggering and I let the arousal flow it unlocks my libido but it used to go back to square one because id get afraid of something again and start suppressing, you have to not suppress anymore. Think about it no one else does this just ocd people so thats why everyone’s libido is normal

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u/Electronic-Box675 — 3 days ago

I feel like Hinge likes are...for lack of better word more prominent that tinder likes and bumble likes, they're more direct as you get a notification for everyone that likes you where as Tinder does do that but only when you haven't received a like in a while

So when I'm sending these girls that are out of my league likes I just keep picturing them seeing my profile and swiping X, at least on Tinder there's a chance they won't even see me but on Hinge I'm selective with my likes because I don't want that many women in my small city to know I like them

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u/Electronic-Box675 — 23 days ago

Man I’ve been unmatched for taking too long to reply so many times by girls who took ages to reply to me, I don’t even do it on purpose to get back at them I’m just busy sometimes, I don’t get this, I always assume they’re used to texting like this

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u/Electronic-Box675 — 24 days ago