u/Electronic-Panda-460

I met this girl a little over 3 months ago. Things went really well at first and we got into a relationship pretty quickly. However, I eventually found out that she smokes and drinks. That’s a major dealbreaker for me, so I didn't see a long-term future with her and decided to end things.

We stayed in contact, though. As we kept talking and getting to know each other more, I thought "why not give it another try," and she agreed that we should give it a second chance.

But right after that, her behavior completely changed. She refused to meet up with me, ignored my texts, and whenever I tried to call her, it went straight to voicemail.

Then, two nights ago, she called me in the middle of the night. I answered and just said "Hey, how are you?" and she literally hung up in my face. I sent her a text after that, and honestly, I was just so exhausted and drained by her behavior that I decided to block her.

Fast forward to today: she calls me from a private/hidden number. She was mad that I blocked her and told me "this isn't how you're going to date me," plus some other stuff I didn't even really understand.

Honestly, I'm just tired of the whole situation. But it got me thinking: did I overreact by blocking her? Was I being too excessive, or was I justified in cutting contact?

Salut tout le monde, j'habite en Île de France depuis environ 3 ans maintenant et ces derniers temps je suis dans une DA de faire de nouvelles rencontres et de sortir un peu de ma zone de confort.

Mes principales hobbies sont le Dessin , les animes , j'aime lire également des mangas , webtoons, novels et roman de temps à autre.

Je fais de la guitare aussi de manière occasionnelle et ce serait vraiment sympas de rencontrer des gens avec qui en jouer de temps en temps, je pense que cela m'aiderait beaucoup à m'améliorer.

Je me suis aussi mis à la course à pied récemment et je trouve que ça serait également sympas de rencontrer quelqu'un avec qui aller courir par moment.

J'aime bien les jeux vidéos, et les petites choses de la vie comme les petites balades, écouter de la musique , les longues discussions et les soirées passées devant un film ou autres.

Du coup si nos centres d'intérêt match bien ou que vous souhaitez discuter n'hésitez pas à m'envoyer un DM.

Merciii !

Salut tout le monde ! 👋

Je suis un étudiant de 21 ans, d'origine béninoise, et cela fait maintenant 3 ans que j'ai posé mes valises en île de France dans le 77. Je viens de valider ma licence en mathématiques appliquées et je me lance dans un Master en actuariat. Je commence aussi une nouvelle aventure professionnelle avec une alternance dans un grand groupe d'assurance !

Avec ce nouveau rythme qui s'installe, j'aimerais beaucoup élargir mon cercle social et rencontrer des filles dans la vingtaine sur Paris. L'idée est d'abord de nouer de belles amitiés, de discuter de tout et de rien, de partager des moments sympas autour d'un café ou d'une balade, et de voir si le feeling nous mène à plus naturellement.

Pour vous donner une petite idée de qui je suis, voici ce qui m'anime au quotidien :

Culture & Évasion : Je suis un grand passionné de mangas, de webtoons et d'animes.

Musique : Je joue de la guitare. J'aime beaucoup la pratique, mais je m'intéresse aussi à tout l'aspect technique et à l'entretien de l'instrument.

Sport : Je me suis mis au running ! J'y vais à mon rythme pour repousser mes limites d'endurance petit à petit.

Ma vibe : Je suis quelqu'un de plutôt posé, d'un naturel calme et sans prise de tête au quotidien.

Si tu as des passions en commun, que tu as envie de découvrir de nouveaux endroits dans Paris, ou simplement de discuter, n'hésite pas à m'envoyer un DM.

Au plaisir de vous lire ! 😊

​I \[20s M\] always try to be a good, reliable friend, but lately, I feel like I'm just a doormat. It’s reached a point where I'm genuinely feeling depressed, and I need an objective opinion.

​Recently, there has been a string of incidents with different friends. One friend got genuinely angry at me because I couldn't help her pay for a ticket to Amsterdam, even though I simply don't have the money right now. Another friend borrowed my €35 Lenovo tablet charger, refused to give it back, and literally blocked me everywhere.

​But the main issue right now is with a third friend \[20s F\]. She claimed she didn't have a place to stay, so I’m currently letting her crash at my apartment in Paris for free. However, she’s been incredibly disrespectful. She will sleep somewhere else without giving me any heads-up. She always claims she "hates talking on the phone" to avoid my calls, yet she spent an entire night in my place on the phone with some random guy she’s flirting with, and her voice literally wakes me up at 5am.

​When I called her out on this disrespect, she had the nerve to call ME "nonchalant." This is insane because, when we first met, I was the only one making an effort. Once, I couldn't make it to a meetup because of a bad storm, and I still sent her money so she could buy food since she was already there! And even pay for her transport. She would constantly ignore my calls back then, claiming she was "going through a hard time" or "busy with university" (as if I'm not a busy student myself).

​When I confronted her about her lies and lack of respect, she completely gaslighted me. She told me I was "playing the victim," "acting depressed," and said I was just "jealous." I don't care who she dates or sleeps with; I just expect basic consideration and respect in my own home!

​This whole argument brought back a horrible memory from a trip we took to Portugal. My phone got water-damaged and the battery died. I made sure to help her get back to her place safely first. Since my phone was dead and I didn't know the area, I asked her to walk me the 10 minutes to my hotel using her working Google Maps. She flat-out refused, saying "I can't, I'm a single woman," even though it was only a 10-minute walk, the streets were safe with people around, and she literally goes out at night just to buy food. Because she refused to help me, I was left stranded in a foreign country and didn't find my way back until 1 AM.

​She’s coming back to my apartment soon. If she doesn't give me a genuine apology the second she walks in, I'm taking my key back and kicking her out.

​Am I overreacting, or am I totally justified in being done with these people?