u/Elegant_Field5747

Are there any Aro/Ace in Nepal? lol

hya jhyau laagyo. guff hanna aau ma sanga

I know this is completely unrelated to this group, but all the other relevant subs are basically dead, and this is the only one that actually seems active.

Anyway, I'm looking for a girl singer to sing a few lines for a song I'm working on. You don't need any professional equipment or anything, you can record the vocals at home on your phone. I'm pretty good with editing and autotune, so I can clean everything up on my end.

I'm looking for a sleepy, dreamy, breathy kind of voice, something in the general vibe of Cigarettes After Sex. The lyrics are in English.

The song will eventually be released on Spotify, so if you're interested, you might as well have a song credit floating around somewhere lol.

And no, I don't expect this song to become some massive hit or anything. I'mmaking music because it's my new coping mechanism. I have approximately zero people who are going to listen to them because even my own family has no idea what the hell I've been doing lately.

So yeah, if you think your voice fits, DM me directly.

I want to try making a Nepali song, but I honestly have no idea how to write lyrics in Nepali. I usually write in English, and I have some ideas and concepts, but I suck at expressing them properly in Nepali.

I’m looking for someone who’s good at writing Nepali lyrics, especially simple but deep lines. If you have lyrics you've written that you genuinely think are really good but they're just sitting there collecting dust, feel free to send them my way. Maybe we can turn them into an actual song instead of letting them stay forgotten.

If you're interested, feel free to DM me.

I've considered myself asexual for years, but lately I've been questioning everything.

I've also been dealing with severe BPD and depression for years, so I know those things could be affecting how I experience intimacy, which is part of why I'm so confused.

When I was with my ex, I told her early on that I thought I might be ace. After our first kiss she asked if I liked it, and I lied because I didn't want her thinking she did something wrong. The first time we had sex, I couldn't keep an erection and lied that I had already finished for the same reason. I don't think I actually enjoyed kissing. I remember kissing her harder just trying to feel something.

These days I keep finding myself hooking up even though I hate it. I'll get these really strong urges and emptiness and it's like my brain becomes convinced that sex is exactly what I need, but once I actually meet someone, I don't want to do anything anymore. I lose my erection during sex, I don't enjoy oral, and I genuinely hate kissing, especially tongue kissing. Sometimes it even makes me feel nauseous.

After every hookup I tell myself I'm never doing it again, but somehow I end up repeating the cycle. Something else I've noticed is that almost everyone I hook up with compliments my appearance. They'll tell me I good looking or that I'm attractive. It made me wonder if I'm not actually chasing sex at all. Maybe I'm chasing validation or just wanting to feel desired. Once the physical part starts, though, I realize I don't actually want it.

So now I'm honestly confused.

Am I actually asexual? I do get what feels like a strong urge to have sex, but when it actually happens I don't enjoy it. I can't tell if what I'm feeling is sexual attraction, libido, loneliness, a need for validation, or if my BPD is making all of this even harder to understand.