u/Ellassario

I, 40F, have started shocking myself and others around me ,with static electricity, daily. Some days it's maybe 10+ times and it's painful too. It's come to the point where I accidentally shocked my 3yo when she touched me, I've gotten shocked when touching the car to he point that it hurts, and last night when I was petting my cat, I could _see_ the electricity, every time I pet him.

At least I get it with the cat, when I pet the fur. But it happens all the time, no matter where I am. So I'm wondering if maybe my static charge is off all of the time somehow, but why? There's definitely a before and after this started happening, I'm just not sure when that was.

It's been going on for months and I can't think of something specific that happened, that would affect this. But I'm also not super informed when it comes to static electricity or physics. I've tried to figure it out by myself, but since I can't, I now turn to you.

Information that might be valid:

I have 3 cuddly cats, they don't go outside.

I wear long pants a lot so they rub against the floor, not sure if that makes a difference

I only wear Vans outside, they have rubber soles.

I don't think it happened in winter, so perhaps it's a spring thing?

Please, help me figure this out. Someone must know what's up. It's driving me crazy and I really don't enjoy zapping myself and especially not my youngest. She got so sad last time :(.

Life has always been so hard. Not all of the time but it feels like I just keep receiving blow after blow. Like I'm playing life on hard mode 😅.

I (40F) have 3 kids( 3.5, 15 and 19), 3 cats, I recently got a partner but he's also got 3 kids and we're honestly both struggling.

Both me and my big kids have mental health issues, struggle with past trauma and we're neurodivergent. The roughest one is probably my bipolar..

I give everything I have, every single day, and it just NEVER lets up. Every time I feel like I'm close to being able to relax, I get hit with another depression and I just crumble again. And I know that I will keep getting depressed, over and over, for the rest of my life. It's just... Extremely disheartening and it's difficult to stay hopeful.

I haven't been able to work for years and I'm getting less and less money all the time. I'm slowly getting back to it so hopefully, I'll be working within a year at least. But having to buy food, glasses and medicine on credit fucking suuuucks. I haven't self harmed in years and I keep fighting but it just feels so unfair. Why do I have to keep fighting :(

I'm so sick of this. I'm so tired. I didn't even get money back on my taxes, I somehow have to pay more, even though I get what little I have, from the government 😅.

I live in Europe and thankfully, there's a place nearby where you can get kids clothes and shoes that people donate, for free. And the youngest has a decent dad that gets her what she needs. But I'm so, so tired :(. Bleh.

I feel like I can't talk about it anymore to people around me, because it makes me feel like such a burden. I hate being burnt out, not being able to work, not being able to just... Do things that most people can? Blah.. oh well. That's it I guess. That's my vent.

I (40f) am a single mother of 3. My kids are 19, 15 and 3.5 and I love them so, so much. I give as much time, energy and money as possible, to make sure that they feel seen, heard, loved and important. That being said; I don't have a lot. Or at least it feels like I don't.

I had a... definitely less than ideal, childhood. Divorced parents, spent some weekends at my abusive dad's place. I can barely remember anything from when I was little, but I'm pretty sure it wasn't great. My mum struggled, she did her best but wasn't present and her mental health just got worse over the years. She clearly picked her husband over me and my brother, they met when I was about 10. She became less and less present and I started doing a bunch of dumb shit.

I'm bipolar and autistic, I have adhd and a dissociative disorder, as well as OCD and an ED. I had several abusive partners, including the dad of my eldest kids. It got pretty bad for both me and the kids but we finally got out and away from him.

In the aftermath, we all crashed, hard. I haven't been able to work, both from my own burnout and my kids' physical and mental health. The big ones both have adhd and autism, as well as ptsd. I had issues with cps, even though the kids were fine and everything got dropped. But I used up all my savings and I keep getting less and less money.

I'm finally starting to work towards having an actual job again,and met someone new about a year ago. Our relationship is healthy and lovely, so that's a great thing. But I am so, so, sooo drained.

My children need a lot of extra support. The big one tried to continue their education but got completely burnt out and was bedridden for a long time. Their stomach got fucked up too and they could barely eat for so long.

I was with my middle child in school,for over a year, every day. Even when pregnant and burnt out, I sat there to try to get them back to school. We are finally at a point where they go for about 3-4 hrs, 2-3 days per week. But I have to wake them there and back, it's about a 20 min walk one way.

I don't have a car but very recently got a bike from my little one's dad, so that's also a positive thing :). Walking takes so much time. All the sensory input from having to walk to school, daycare, trying to grocery shop for people with very particular food preferences while having like... No money 🙃. I'm so tired, all the time. Sometimes I manage to motivate myself but it's exhausting and I can't keep up.

I used to earn extra money by doing some knitting and crochet, editing texts, crowd work, just anything. But I barely manage to keep up with laundry these days. I'm just so drained.

Sorry that it got so long, I'm just finding it hard to stay optimistic and to believe that it will get better. I used to be better at it but my finances just keep getting worse and worse and my energy levels are not where I need them.

A few months ago, I organized my flat and cleaned it all properly. It took maybe a week or two and afterwards, I could barely talk. I couldn't stand up and had to rest for several days. I got migraine attacks that went on for weeks, off and on. And could barely cook or do anything for days at a time.

So now I'm scared that it will happen again and I struggle with trying to push myself without it happening again. I just feel hopeless, tired and drained. I'm medicated and my mental health issues are managed, thankfully. Or I'd never be able to cope. But I just don't know what to do anymore and had to get this out....

There's more but I just feel empty now. :/ Sorry for writing so much but I guess that's what this sub is for so... Just try to send positive energy my way or something. <3

Btw, I worked full time for years and my finances were great. I never had to worry about money. And now it's been like this for like... 5 years. Trying over and over and just getting more burnt out each time. :(