u/Embarrassed-Can8949

Am an intern and am kinda friends with my boss , we get along and we always threw jokes .he is willing to hire me after the end of my internship and one day i asked him if he’s satisfied with my work , he told me am actually satisfied with claude’s work , implying that all of my work is actually AI generated m i got really offended and i responded impulsively saying “: if you really think that am only using claude to do my work , why do u want to hire me ? Drop it and buy claude pro , he will probably do the job for you, and also accept your bad jokes “ ( was my response that bad ? 😭) he was mad and told me i think I overestimated the good will between us , so going on let’s just stick to professional interactions. I said fair enough , without apologising about my behavior or discussing the boundary he set . Now a week passed and he’s treating me in a very cold way , i feel guilty about what i did and i feel like i’m lossing the “cool boss” version to the passive version of him , that I actually hate .

How can i fix thingss? Would apologising to him after a week make a difference? Or should i ignore what happened and move on and try to find a way to earn his trust again ? Am afraid he will reconsider hiring me after what i said , or he will see me in a different way and stop relying on me .

I kinda messed it up at work and mixed personal and professional experience, i am an intern ( female) and at some point i got close to my boss , my goal was to build a friendship with him but turns out that the kind of friendship he wants is based on teasing , provocation , sarcasm , and bad dirty jokes . It started well we were joking about people and situations that happens at work until it got more personal and he started to test my personal boundaries, by throwing jokes about my personal life and making bad assumptions about me, it felt really uncomfortable so I addressed it saying “ ok am good with humor but let’s keep the minimum level of decency and respect that is needed for a professional experience , let’s navigate the middle ground why should we be in one extreme “ he resisted saying that he function that way and these are the kind of friendship he wants , and i need to accept that ,i gave him another chance saying maybe i will understand his dynamic more and not get things he says seriously until he teased me another time and i attacked him in a very passive aggressive way , then ghosted him . He didn’t like it and told me : i think I overestimated the good will between us and let’s keep this relationship professional . I now feel relieved to get rid of that uncomfortable dynamic but meanwhile am afraid he will not treat me the same way at work , am actually looking for the middle ground : not a very professional strict relationship but also not a very personal one . What should i do to reach that level ? How can i fix the relationship again ?