u/Embarrassed-Dish1839

I don’t know what possessed me to think i could cut my sons hair. I have no experience cutting hair. At all. He has beautiful curly hair past his shoulders but it kept getting in his eyes and it was clearly annoying him, so i thought hey, i’ll just give his fringe a little trim…

Well fellow parents, i truly committed a crime against humanity. His fringe is now about 2 cm long. It’s not even straight, it’s curved. He looks like a victorian era choirboy. It kept going wonky so, like a fool, i just kept on chopping. We are supposed to be going to Italy in a few weeks to see my husband’s family and i am so close to cancelling the flights. I cannot allow other people to see him imitating Lord Farquaad.

I am PRAYING it grows back fast. It’s a good job he’s not that self aware because he would probably never talk to me for the rest of his life on Earth.

Oh my word i am never, *NEVER* doing that again.

😭😭😭😭😭please tell me i am not the only one to make such an error…

So.. im a SAHM to a 19 month old who is fiercely independent, somewhat violent and gets bored very easily. He still has a very limited vocabulary so it’s tough for me to understand what he wants. My husband works 70+ hours a week and i don’t have any family nearby, so i feel burnt out 110% of the time. My mom was always angry and nasty when i was growing up, and thats really not what i want for my son. I want to break the cycle.

However, I’m finding that I’m shouting at him for almost everything, and the more i think about it the more it upsets me. Sometimes i catch myself mid-shout and I’m like, who even cares? Why am i reacting like this? At which point i apologise and try to hug him, but this isn’t healthy at all. I don’t want him to think that i hate him, but at this point he probably does think that. I cant seem to control my anger and everything is triggering me, even though its likely just bog standard toddler behaviour. Sometimes all i can think to do is distract him by putting him in front of the TV so that we can sit calmly together, but i know that this is no doubt making his behaviour worse and its truly not worth the 30 minutes of peace.

How do you navigate the throes of toddlerhood without getting angry? How do i calm the eff down before i cause lasting damage to my son? I love him endlessly and the guilt keeps me up at night. I want to be a calm and confident presence in his life. Please, please tell me any and all advice you have.