With Matt Bernstein, F.D Signifier and Kat Tenbarge. I really enjoyed this and thought some of you might. They really get into why this is happening, and highlight the cultural hypocrisy that made this all inevitable.
So I have a... situation?... with an Aquarius person. We're friends and now slowly starting to become business partners, and she has been dropping hints that her feelings go much deeper than friendship, but very cryptically and noncommittally. But also not subtle at all if that makes sense? I can see now that she's been orchestrating our encounters for years to keep me in her life, albeit at arm's length, making it seem very casual and happenstance all the while. But recently that distance is getting much shorter. On my end the feeling is very mutual, and I'm just starting to understand that she isn't playing around. On the other hand, I think the "what are we really doing here" conversation may be impossible. I've tried to communicate that I wanted that, and it was met with an immediate "sure we can talk but I have no idea what you're talking about" energy, so I backed out of that conversation.
So here's the real issue- I'm in a long-term relationship with someone else. I've mulled it over for a long time, and realized I would drop everything and reconfigure my entire life in a second to be with this friend if I knew it would actually happen. I haven't felt this way about anyone, ever. My worry is that maybe she's only interested because I'm currently unavailable, and if I were to suddenly become available her feelings would change. Is this a thing with Aquarians, or is it kinda a done deal once you decide you like someone? The reputation for being cold and detached and fleeing from anything serious is not helping me make better sense of this already messy situation, I have to say.
This person has 3 placements in Aquarius, identifies heavily with it, and in my experience is the absolute epitome of everything associated with that sign, so whatever the conventional wisdom is probably applies.
And yes I'm aware of the implications of this for my current relationship regardless of what happens. I'm figuring it out one day at a time.