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My dyshidrotic eczema is on and off, mostly during the warmer months. Did a patch test because I have super sensitive skin (or so I thought) the only thing my skin reacted to was nickel. Traced some things back and when I eat high nickel foods I get the bumps. Now that I have figured this out and my most recent flare is gone how do you all deal with the discoloration from popping the bumps? I have an event and would like for the inside of my hands to look a bit better asap but it’s not too bad either. If you all have any tips let me know, thanks!

This is going to sound absolutely terrible but I could never tell my friend this. She had a miscarriage a year ago she wasn’t far along found out at like 6 weeks had a miscarriage by the 9th or 10th. She was excited and telling everyone about it a little too soon I guess since many miscarriages happen in those first few weeks. I was there to support her as much as I could she was really sad about it and although I couldn’t understand it since I’ve never been pregnant or want to be I sympathized. It’s been a year since and she still talks about it at length and the reason I just can’t stand to hear about it anymore is because it wasn’t a baby it wasn’t even the size of a lemon.

I don’t know what to say anymore when it’s brought up because I don’t care I know I sound heartless. Her life is a mess constant back and forth cheating between her and her spouse, no money, a history of mental illness, no job. I’m glad she didn’t have a baby no child deserves to grow up in that environment. She even got a tattoo to constantly remind her of the fetus and maybe that makes her feel better but that just seems like another reason to think about it everyday. I feel like a huge bitch but I just want to shake her and yell “THAT WAS NOT A BABY”. She keeps referring to it as her baby and I’m just kind of disturbed. One of our friends suggested we do something to honor the baby in a few weeks and I’m just wondering if everyone is ok in the head. Feel free to berate me I know it’s a sick way of thinking but there’s so much more to life and to see someone sulk when she should be happy she got her life back! To be fair I don’t think anyone should really be having kids right now at all but it’s not my place to say that to others I agree with some antinatalism points which I know is pretty controversial.

Edit: She has been in therapy for at least a year now, husband is a cheater (cheated on her while going through the miscarriage). Therapist has already told her to get a divorce she claims not to be ready yet. She also informed me that she isn’t doing anything to prevent pregnancy currently but is planning for a baby in the next two years!
:)