Am i losing my best friend?
I (48 female) am friends with (62 male) a man who i met through a datingsite 16 years ago. We dated for 1 year and disided to life together, we both moved to a new house but in his city so i had to move to the other side of the country and i wanted to. After 4 years we broke up because he cheated on me . I was in my last year of my education and we lived in a big house so i asked him of i could stay and finish it since i did not have any family or friends where i could stay. In that time we became good friends and i forgive him. With my education i also worked so after i had my diploma i still had to work and stay to finish my contract (i had 1 year left to go) i talked to him about it and i think that he was feeling guilty by all that happened so he let me stay. We got closer and closer until i got pregnant (from a different man) in the mean time we both moved out of the house and we each got our own place but he helped me a lot and went with me to the hospital for check ups and was with me when my son was born ( his father is not in the picture) . I gave my son his name, and we got closer but still friends, he helped me with allot of things . Fast forward 8 years later my son sees him as a father figure and they love each other, he promised us that he will be in our lives forever . In december 2023 he met a woman, i was happy for him and he was to but always downplayed the relationship because they dont have the same interest in music and movies that he and i have , and there where other stuff that he did not like about her but compared her to me. I told him that that was wrong and unfair to her . He introduced her through the phone and we only said hi to each other because she is from a different country and does not speak the language or English even. I noticed that he didnt come by verry often and i thought it was because of his girlfriend wich i did not mind and i understand. Fast forward a couple of months later we were speaking and seeing each other les and les i understood but my son starded to ask what was going on, i told him and he did not like it but understood because he to wants to see him happy. Come to find out she doesnt want him to spend time with us or my son alone, she thinks that i am using my son to get back together with him, mind you we havent been with each other in more than 10 years. He says to me that he does not want the friendship to end and that she is not his boss , but when he does visit he is only on his phone and very anxious. Usually he would spend 2 or 3 days with us now its hardly 1 day and he lives 3 hours away. In the beginning of their relationship i invited her to my house to let her know that nothing is going on and its like we are family but she is being really mean girl-ish to me and she is like 60 years old. He is not defending me and he told me what she thought of me wich surprised me because she knew details of my live i never spoke to her about so i knew then that he told her. I was very upset and we got in to a fight and we did not speak for almost a year. But he kept calling , texting me after a while i forgive him. The relationship is not how it used to be but we acasionaly see each other but he does not tell her and when they do, they fight. I want him to be happy so i told him that if this is what she needs then he has to give it to her because she is very insecure. I want him to be happy but internally i am upset and feeling like i lost my friend and it is not going good with my son at school he misses him allot so i am mad at him about that and hurt . I know that i am losing him as a friend and it has been really hard on my son and i. I feel really alone and he has been my only friend , i have little family and we only see each other ones a year, so its just me and my son. I am going to stop now, i had to let this off my chest because i have no one to talk to. Thank you for reading
English is not my first language so i hope you can follow