Am I overreacting for being upset with my parents while I’m in the hospital?
I was admitted to the hospital a few days ago. At first, my legs were so painful and weak that I genuinely needed help getting around. My mom and boyfriend (only one, not both) were staying overnight with me because I was on a lot of IV fluids and had to get up to pee constantly. I could barely walk, bend my knees, get in and out of bed, or sit on the toilet by myself.
Over the last couple of days, I’ve improved a lot. I’m still not back to normal, but I can walk, stand, get in and out of bed, and use the bathroom on my own.
I’m in a shared room with three other patients. My mom asked staff about parking, and the topic of overnight visitors came up. Staff told her that overnight stays actually aren’t allowed on this unit and that we’d basically been lucky up until now.
My parents were upset and wanted to talk to staff about it. I repeatedly told them not to. I said I was okay, I didn’t want to make a scene, and I didn’t want them arguing with hospital staff. At first I was upset too but the more i thought about it, it made sense.Theres not a lot of space and I am getting better. They kept trying to convince me to let them talk to someone. I even asked my older sister to talk to them because they weren’t listening to me. Afterward, they told me they would drop it. I asked them multiple more times to please leave it alone, and they said they would.
Later that night, a nurse came in to do my vitals. As soon as she came in and put the BP cuff on me, my mom started telling the nurse that my legs were extremely weak, that I couldn’t bend them, that I might fall, that I needed help getting to the bathroom, and that I couldn’t even sit on the toilet by myself.
The problem is that none of that reflected how I was doing that day. I had already been walking and going to the bathroom independently. While she was talking, I made eye contact with her multiple times and tried to signal for her to stop. She ignored me and kept going. Then she brought up that they were trying to stay overnight.
The nurse politely explained the rules and still said no.
What upset me wasn’t even that the nurse said no. It was that I felt like my mom ignored my wishes after promising she wouldn’t bring it up again, and I felt embarrassed hearing her describe me as much more helpless than I actually was. Knowing that staff have already seen me move around.
At the same time, I know my parents are worried and probably just want to help.
Am I overreacting for being upset about this, or would you feel the same way?
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TLDR : I’m in the hospital. When I was first admitted, I needed a lot of help getting around, but I’ve improved significantly and can now walk and use the bathroom on my own.
Staff recently told my mom that overnight visitors aren’t allowed on my unit. My parents wanted to ask for an exception, but I repeatedly told them not to and asked them to leave it alone. They eventually agreed.
Later, a nurse came in and my mom started telling her that I was too weak to be alone, needed help using the bathroom, and was at risk of falling. I tried signaling to her multiple times to stop, but she ignored me and continued. She was clearly trying to convince the nurse to let her stay overnight.
The nurse still said no.
I’m upset because my mom went against my wishes after promising not to bring it up again, and because she exaggerated how much help I currently need. It made me feel helpless in the situation and disrespected.
Am I wrong for being upset?