u/EmotionalFudge242

Throwaway account because people involved use Reddit.

I think this is the right subreddit for this, but honestly I just need to get this off my chest because I feel like I’m going insane over the whole situation.

I was with my ex for 6 years. He wasn’t just my boyfriend, he was my best friend and basically my whole world. We officially broke up last year, but the relationship never really ended. We still texted constantly, called each other for hours, kept meeting up, and were still sleeping together until the end of December. And yes, I know how dumb that sounds after a breakup, but I loved him so much that I didn’t even care anymore.

What made it worse was that he kept giving me hope the entire time. He’d say things like maybe after his semester abroad we could try again and see where things go. So of course I stayed emotionally attached because I truly thought there was still a future for us somewhere down the line.

At the same time, he was apparently already hooking up with other people right after the breakup. That alone hurt enough, but recently he told me that one of those girls became his official girlfriend. He acted like it was super fresh, but later I saw he was already publicly linked to her on social media back in January.

For some reason, he felt the need to tell me all of this personally while I sat there trying not to completely break down in front of him. I swear the whole thing still makes me feel physically ill.

And what haunts me is that I just sat there acting calm through the whole conversation. I even congratulated him while internally I wanted to cry, scream, punch him, and ask how he could do this to me after everything.

I had JUST started feeling a little better before this happened. Not fully over him obviously, but at least functioning again. And now it feels like all the grief, anger, humiliation, jealousy, and abandonment hit me all over again, just 10x worse. It honestly feels like some horrible nightmare, and part of me still expects to wake up and see him lying next to me like none of this ever happened.

Another thing completely messing with my head is that during our relationship he never really wanted to seriously talk about marriage or kids. Now suddenly he talks about wanting a big family someday, and it makes me realize I just wasn’t the person he wanted those things with.

That realization hurts more than anything right now. I gave this relationship everything. My love, loyalty, time, basically my entire late teens and early 20s. I built my whole life around this person. Now I’m sitting here wondering how I’m supposed to start over from zero while he seems perfectly fine moving on, not even a month after he last slept with me.

I know people move on after breakups. But I honestly cannot understand how someone can keep their ex emotionally attached for months, continue talking to them, sleeping with them, hint at getting back together, and then suddenly be in a whole new relationship almost immediately after.

I feel replaced. And what hurts most is realizing I probably loved him way more than he ever loved me. I wish I had never met him at all because no amount of good memories feels worth being hurt and betrayed like this in the end.

I think this is the right subreddit for this, but honestly, I just need to vent because I feel like I’m losing my mind.

I was with my ex for 6 years. He wasn’t just my boyfriend, he was literally my best friend and basically my whole life. After the breakup, we still texted and talked constantly, sometimes for hours on the phone. We kept sleeping together until the end of December. And yes, I KNOW how stupid that sounds. But I still loved him so much at that point that I honestly didn’t even care.

The whole time he kept giving me mixed signals, saying things like “Maybe after my semester abroad we could try again and see where things go.” So my dumb ass stayed emotionally attached because I genuinely thought there was still a chance for us.

Meanwhile, he was apparently meeting up with other people for sex after the breakup, which already hurt enough. But now I found out that one of those girls became his official girlfriend in January. And instead of me finding out naturally, he just had to tell me personally while I sat there trying not to completely fall apart. I swear I actually felt physically sick in that moment.

What makes me even angrier is that I stayed calm and even said, “I’m happy for you, congratulations,” like some emotionally mature idiot. Meanwhile inside I wanted to scream, cry, and honestly punch him in the face.

Now I feel like I’m spiraling. I was FINALLY starting to get over him. Genuinely starting to heal a little. And now all the grief, anger, and humiliation came back 10x worse.

I just genuinely cannot understand how someone can keep their ex emotionally attached for months, continue talking to them, sleeping with them, hint at getting back together someday, and then not even a month later be in a whole new relationship that fast.

I feel so replaced and stupid for believing any of it meant something. If he could move on that fast, then clearly I never really meant anything to him at all. That thought is what breaks me the most.