Overcoming Fears and Sadness
I have been working diligently through prayer, meditation, positive thinking, etc to deal with these feelings of sadness that arise when I know my man will be with the other woman. I have been quite taken aback by my emotional reaction as I have been priming myself for the revelation of another woman coming into the fold. Sometimes, I feel a sense of panic and a sick feeling when I think about it. I gathered that the fear is the fear of the unknown, but I don’t know what the feeling of sadness is about.
At the moment, his first wife is not interested in polygyny. This other woman, who he has been trying to have a relationship with, is still on the fence about polygyny, and doesn’t necessarily want to talk about it or meet his wife. I don’t believe she is aware of me yet.
I am trying to trust that all will go well. I feel I have a good and solid relationship with him, but I have been dealing with these intense feelings, and I want these feelings to subside because I want us to have a solid family unit and I want to feel good about our dynamic.
in short: the women are not total in cooperation, aside from myself, but I’m dealing with feelings of sadness and fear about him being with more women, even though I support his pursuit of polygyny.
any advice?