u/Empty_Tower1888

Question:

How do you not get into/let the baby comparison bother you?

Currently:

I get my husband to not tell me details about the baby in general and more so how are they doing kind of deal.

Background:

Been wanting a baby for 4 years now and he is now 9 months old. My brother in law never wanted kids, never took an interest in our journey/son. His wife who has PCOS got pregnant and they couldn't decide for a while if they wanted to abort as they didn't want a child nor did they think she could get pregnant. They decided to keep the baby and announced two weeks after the birth of our son.

Now that their baby is born the comparison of the delivery, breast feeding, how quiet the baby is, milestones, how much time each husband has off work, mother in law visits/how much time they visit etc has started and it's really annoying.

Now I have to listen to all their stories about their son when they had no interest/still have no interest in mine. Even during her pregnancy they shook their head when I asked if they wanted to hold our son and they said no way. They claim they have the easiest baby in the world after 3 weeks. They recently gave us formula in front of all the family and said their milk came in and didn't need it and was going to sell it but was doing us a favor.

At 8.5 months of their pregnancy they had not got any baby clothes/items/started baby room. They thought they were getting all of our things which we are not giving them. They had finally looked into a stroller and car seat after asking my husband many times which one to get. After phone calls, video calls, in person visits probably totalling 8 hours they went with a different one. Then all the questions about labor and post labor started happening and they were taking up so much of his time. They never research, took a class, read a book about parenting/having a baby. After almost a month they finally named the child.

I found out while I was pregnant that my brother in law was jealous of us from the attention we were getting. They said they kept the baby as it was the next logically step in their relationship and someone to give their stuff to when they die. When I asked if they are excited about the birth soon they said it's something to do.

I guess it's annoying cause these two people had zero interest in having a baby. The only thing I'm clinging onto is that my brother in law saying he's jealous of us which give me the only peace of mind.

Question:

How do you not get into/let the baby comparison bother you?

Currently:

I get my husband to not tell me details about the baby in general and more so how are they doing kind of deal.

Background:

Been wanting a baby for 4 years now and he is now 9 months old. My brother in law never wanted kids, never took an interest in our journey/son. His wife who has PCOS got pregnant and they couldn't decide for a while if they wanted to abort as they didn't want a child nor did they think she could get pregnant. They decided to keep the baby and announced two weeks after the birth of our son.

Now that their baby is born the comparison of the delivery, breast feeding, how quiet the baby is, milestones, how much time each husband has off work, mother in law visits/how much time they visit etc has started and it's really annoying.

Now I have to listen to all their stories about their son when they had no interest/still have no interest in mine. Even during her pregnancy they shook their head when I asked if they wanted to hold our son and they said no way. They claim they have the easiest baby in the world after 3 weeks. They recently gave us formula in front of all the family and said their milk came in and didn't need it and was going to sell it but was doing us a favor.

At 8.5 months of their pregnancy they had not got any baby clothes/items/started baby room. They thought they were getting all of our things which we are not giving them. They had finally looked into a stroller and car seat after asking my husband many times which one to get. After phone calls, video calls, in person visits probably totalling 8 hours they went with a different one. Then all the questions about labor and post labor started happening and they were taking up so much of his time. They never research, took a class, read a book about parenting/having a baby. After almost a month they finally named the child.

I found out while I was pregnant that my brother in law was jealous of us from the attention we were getting. They said they kept the baby as it was the next logically step in their relationship and someone to give their stuff to when they die. When I asked if they are excited about the birth soon they said it's something to do.

I guess it's annoying cause these two people had zero interest in having a baby. The only thing I'm clinging onto is that my brother in law saying he's jealous of us which give me the only peace of mind.