r/baby

Ok so I have a 4 month old, almost 4.5 months. He mostly nurses, but he has taken bottles of my pumped milk since day 1 as well. Husband is wonderful with him, was off for 2 months and worked from home ever since. Still takes the full night shift on weekends. We are at my parents who would help him the whole time as well, they are good with him. Of course the baby does best with me though. He’s an easy baby, but he likes to nurse to sleep. Can go to sleep without it but prefers to nurse when he wakes in the middle of the night, will take a bottle but it’s a lot more difficult and he cries. My husband is smart and resourceful and a great father, my parents are great as well. I am maid of honor for my sister and the sticky part is that her bachelorette is a 4 day cruise. I am not feeling good about leaving, it feels like he’s too young. I don’t want to mess up his attachment style, I don’t want something to happen, I don’t want him to be super upset the whole time, I don’t want to go and be worried the whole time and regret going. What should I do? What would you do? When did you leave your infant for the first time?

Is it ok for a 6 month old to have about five minutes of screen time every few days? I HATE cutting his nails (we had an accident) so I file them. I try to file them in his sleep but he always ends up squirming. What I tried today was putting on Blue’s Clues (so not one of those overstimulating shows) to distract him and it worked. He stayed completely still while I filed his nails. Is it fine to keep doing this or do I need to worry about that being too much screen time?

I don't want to give too much backstory but me and my SO were extremely happy prior to having a baby, we rarely argued in the 4 years we've been together, I could probably count the number of times we did on one hand.

Since LO was born (4 months old), I'm constantly upset because my partner doesn't take care of our baby or me at all. He works 8:30-6:00pm monday-friday and it takes him half an hour to get to/from work. He will wake up 10 minutes before he needs to leave the house, and will immediately throw himself into his hobbies when he gets home and on weekends.

I'm exclusively breastfeeding with the exception of 1 bottle of expressed milk at bedtime which to be fair to him, he does give because LO will have a longer first stretch of sleep if given a bottle and cannot smell mum! If I try to put her down she will cry.

Once she is down for bed, I pump, cook us dinner, do the washing/cleaning and then go to bed too where I get about half an hour of sleep before LO wakes up. The rest of the night she won't go back down into her bassinet so cosleeps with me.

I've tried asking my partner to wake up in the night to help settle her/change nappies as she is more likely to settle and for longer periods, he promises he will then it doesn't happen.

He does no chores around the house, never cooks or cleans up after himself unless I ask him to specifically do something.

I feel like I'm constantly having to ask for support or for him to be present as a parent and I've cried almost every other night and begged him to help out more. The frustrating part is he puts his head down, apologises and promises to do better every single time, only for it to not happen. I just wish he would either have it out with me and tell me what's stopping him from doing more or engage properly in a conversation and plan how he will do more rather than just nodding and agreeing. I desperately want him to follow through with his word. At the moment I'm only sleeping for 30 mins-1.5 hours per day, I'm constantly feeding or carrying our baby. I'm the only one who ever plays/talks with her.

Is this an issue he has with binding with our baby? Or does he just not care or love me enough anymore to help out?

I'm so burnt out that I feel I'm not being the mum that i want to be and my milk supply is tanking as a result of the exhaustion and depression.

Any suggestions on how to get a partner to be more helpful around the house or more present as a parent?

My 7 month old just bit me so hard while breastfeeding it hurts so much. No actual blood but there is a mark. Her second tooth started growing in like 2 days ago. I just screamed and then couldn't control but cry. She just looked confused. I feel like she's too young to understand it hurts? Any advice 🙏🏼

When did everyone’s babies start lifting their head properly and pushing up on their forearms during tummy time?

My girls 15 week, and I’m getting a bit worried about head lifting and pushing herself up.

When I’m standing up and holding her she has good neck control and looks around.
However, she absolutely hates tummy time. Screams and cries as soon as she starts it.
She won’t lift her head up during it and hasn’t yet lifted herself up with her forearms.

I messaged the health visitor today about it today, and all they sent me was links, with no actual advice, and they the ended the chat. So I’m unsure of where to go from here?

Thank you!

I need someone to explain adjusted age and milestones to me because my 8 week old is acting like an 8 week old and is pretty advanced and not a 2 week old (adjusted age).

My LO is 8 weeks old and has amazing head control. So much so that he has rolled three times, once on his left and twice on his right. It doesn't seem like a fluke or torticollis. The issue I'm having is that we were told to do adjusted age for him since he's a 34 weeker. This would mean he's only 2 weeks old and rolling is very abnormal and concerning for that age.

He's also sleeping longer stretches at night, which is awesome, but again, if he's only 2 weeks old, concerning.

First time mom here. My baby is 13d old, EBF, term baby. Shes an incredibly grunty baby all day, but at night after 30-45 minutes of silent sleep in the bassinet, she wakes up and has on and off loud noises anywhere from grunting, moaning, weak cries. She will be silent for a couple minutes then start up again. She really doesn't escalate to full on crying. I was waking her every time this started, in which she usually stops the noise when picked up. Sometimes she sleepy feeds or will do a full feeding depending on when I last fed her, sometimes she is still asleep and won't feed. Her eyes are usually closed with the episodes, so I've now tried to sleep through them in which can't.

I have tried mylicon drops, bicycles, keeping upright for 10 minutes after feedings. I'm wondering if swaddling her is an issue because she's very wiggly during her fussing.

I can't sleep unless my mom or husband has her outside the room. I understand babies are fussy and loud, but this seems excessive. I hate ignoring the noises. Any tips are appreciated. She has a weight check Tuesday in which I plan on asking her pediatrician.

Baby is 7 months old and weighs 21.5 pounds. He has been consistently peeing through his overnight diapers.

So far, we have tried:

Sizing up to Huggies Overnight Size 5, but they were too big for him.

Using Huggies Overnight Size 4 with Sposie pads, but he still pees through them.

Changing his diaper immediately before putting him in the crib.

Despite these changes, he continues to soak through his diaper overnight.

Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

i swear i could give my 17 month old a full container of blueberries and she would eat it in one sitting

Mid Nap Time Wake-ups

My 2yr old (28mo) daughter is having issues staying asleep during her whole nap. She used to be fine, but now she’ll go 45-1hr then wake up crying, only to be soothed and falling asleep on my chest/lap on the couch, and sleep for another hr-1.5hr. I try to resettle her on her bed but she wakes and refuses.

We (she sleeps at night in our bed) wake around 7-7:30 and falls asleep 8:30-9.

I used to nurse her to sleep on her bed, and she had no problems staying asleep after I got up. That’s been 3mo ago and she hadn’t had issues till a little over a week ago.

Is this just some form of sleep regression? I know her fighting her naps is normal (sometimes she doesn’t nap till 3 or 4pm, but no problems for bedtime), but if there’s anything I could do that would be great!

Thanks!

My first 2 babies took a bottle fine but my 3rd baby will not drink a bottle. I would prefer to not use artificial vanilla. Is there another way that had worked for anyone? I stopped pumping because sure wouldn't take a bottle but I have a lot of milk stashed.

My baby is a month old now and my husband has made my life miserable whenever I have my mom, who is my best friend that I’m very close to come to visit. He will lose his temper at me when she comes and she loses her temper at me if she doesn’t. I’m postpartum and don’t need this drama. Plus it’s super sad that my mom can’t be a part of mine or the baby’s life during this time that passes so quickly. I could certainly use her help! Am I being unreasonable to have her here even with my husband storming out and losing his temper if I do? What amount of time do couples normally have a parent over when they have a new baby? I’m not asking my husband to visit with her or even speak to her when she comes in just to let her be here and to maybe let her rock the baby for an hour or two so that I can sleep and heal from my c section that still hurts.

First-time mom here!

My son is 7 weeks old. He tracks toys with his eyes, lifts his head during tummy time, moves his arms and legs well, and calms down when he’s picked up.

What I’m not seeing yet is much social engagement. He hasn’t smiled, rarely looks at our faces for more than a moment, doesn’t seem particularly interested when we approach him, and usually looks around the room during feeds instead of making eye contact. He also isn’t cooing yet.

I know all babies develop at their own pace, but I’m wondering whether any of your babies were similar at this age and then became more socially engaged over the following weeks or month…

I swear I spend half my day searching random baby questions 😅
One minute I'm worried about sleep, then feeding, then a random noise my baby made lol
Please tell me I'm not the only one

Hi there, I’m a first time mom and need some advice. We aren’t doing a nursery right away because he’ll be sleeping in our room for a while. I’m wondering if it makes sense to buy a bassinet now and a crib later or to just buy a Nestig mini crib that grows into a full size crib and toddler bed. I think it’s slightly more financially beneficial to buy the mini crib but wondering if it’s actually worth it. Any thoughts are appreciated!

For those who have had Velcro babies...when does it get better? When do they start letting you put them down?

My 8 week old cries when I put him down or when anyone but me holds him. He won't take a bottle from anyone else either (but will let me) so I'm on my own in caring for him.

He also sleeps on me during the daytime and id love to be able to give him a cot nap at some stage. He is fine at sleeping in the cot at night however.

My baby just turned 4 months and I’m really in my head about sleep training and nursing to sleep. He currently wakes about 1–2 times most nights (occasionally 3), nurses back to sleep pretty quickly, and overall is actually a pretty decent sleeper compared to some babies I read about. He’s capable of long stretches (5–7 hrs sometimes), but naps are short/inconsistent and we’ve definitely had some recent 4 month sleep changes.

For context, he currently sleeps in a bassinet in our room for the first half of the night then in his crib in his nursery for the second half so my husband doesn’t wake him up when he gets ready for work. Also his nursery has blackout shades and our room does not (yet!).

I keep reading online (aka TikToks and Reels) that nursing to sleep is creating bad habits or that I need to sleep train soon, and it’s making me anxious. I honestly like nursing him to sleep because it feels easy and comforting for both of us, but I also miss sleep and worry I’m setting us up for problems later.

Would love to hear from anyone who:
continued nursing to sleep past 4 months
did not formally sleep train
or had a baby similar to mine who eventually started sleeping longer stretches / more independently over time.

Just looking for real experiences and reassurance either way 🤍

Putting together a baby shower gift basket and was wondering what items you didn't know you needed until that moment? Example infant Tylenol Thanks in advance 😊

Question:

How do you not get into/let the baby comparison bother you?

Currently:

I get my husband to not tell me details about the baby in general and more so how are they doing kind of deal.

Background:

Been wanting a baby for 4 years now and he is now 9 months old. My brother in law never wanted kids, never took an interest in our journey/son. His wife who has PCOS got pregnant and they couldn't decide for a while if they wanted to abort as they didn't want a child nor did they think she could get pregnant. They decided to keep the baby and announced two weeks after the birth of our son.

Now that their baby is born the comparison of the delivery, breast feeding, how quiet the baby is, milestones, how much time each husband has off work, mother in law visits/how much time they visit etc has started and it's really annoying.

Now I have to listen to all their stories about their son when they had no interest/still have no interest in mine. Even during her pregnancy they shook their head when I asked if they wanted to hold our son and they said no way. They claim they have the easiest baby in the world after 3 weeks. They recently gave us formula in front of all the family and said their milk came in and didn't need it and was going to sell it but was doing us a favor.

At 8.5 months of their pregnancy they had not got any baby clothes/items/started baby room. They thought they were getting all of our things which we are not giving them. They had finally looked into a stroller and car seat after asking my husband many times which one to get. After phone calls, video calls, in person visits probably totalling 8 hours they went with a different one. Then all the questions about labor and post labor started happening and they were taking up so much of his time. They never research, took a class, read a book about parenting/having a baby. After almost a month they finally named the child.

I found out while I was pregnant that my brother in law was jealous of us from the attention we were getting. They said they kept the baby as it was the next logically step in their relationship and someone to give their stuff to when they die. When I asked if they are excited about the birth soon they said it's something to do.

I guess it's annoying cause these two people had zero interest in having a baby. The only thing I'm clinging onto is that my brother in law saying he's jealous of us which give me the only peace of mind.