u/EntertainmentWest179

Hey guys! I’m 19F and currently doing CA Inter. I’m looking for a side hustle, preferably remote, just to earn some money to buy things for myself.

I don’t really have any skills apart from academics (yeah, I know 😭), but I’ve always done pretty well academically and I’m willing to learn something new.

Any suggestions for beginner-friendly remote work/side hustles that I can manage alongside CA? Would really appreciate any advice or personal experiences!

My boyfriend and I had a fight about two weeks before my birthday. I admit that we were both at fault equally. During the argument, I told him that I didn't want to celebrate my birthday with him. He had been excited about my birthday and had already made some plans, but at that moment he was saying things that were really hurtful, and I couldn't imagine spending my birthday with him while pretending everything was fine.

He took what I said very badly. He started calling me things like "lowly," "lousy," and "highly egoistic," and even told me that I might never find happiness. He also blocked me on the insta on which we usually talk. What hurt me the most was the disrespect because I never expected him to speak to me that way.

Part of me wanted to leave, but another part of me couldn't let go because of all the memories, time, and future plans we had together. I ended up calling him repeatedly, and there were more hurtful things said before things eventually calmed down. Later, he apologized and seemed genuinely ashamed of what he had said.

I was still very hurt, though. I became distant and told him honestly that I was still with him partly because it was difficult for me to let go of our relationship and that if i continue to feel the same their is no other way than to end this relation. We eventually spent my birthday together, and he put a lot of effort into my gifts and making the day special, but I still couldn't forget what had happened.

Eventually, he asked me whether I still liked/loved him. I admitted that I couldn't get over the incident and that I didn't love him in the same way anymore.

At first, he tried to be nice and convince me to move past it. But after a day or so, he started telling me that I had to let it go, otherwise it would affect him and he would change, and that I would regret treating him this way. He has also said things like he should just die, which makes me feel extremely pressured and guilty.

I asked him repeatedly to give me some time because I have very stressful professional exams coming up in a week. The exams are extremely difficult, with an overall passing rate of around 10%, and the particular subject I'm currently studying has a passing rate of roughly 30–35%. I told him that I needed to focus on studying and that I would process my feelings after my exams.

Instead, he accused me of prioritizing my studies over him and kept pushing me to "be normal" and resolve the relationship immediately.

Today, I told him that maybe we should just drop the topic, stop discussing the past, and try to act normally again. He told me that it's too late, that he's not the same anymore, and that now he can't forget how I treated him when I was avoiding him. He keeps focusing on how hurt he felt, while I feel that my distance was a reaction to the things he said and how deeply they affected me.

Now we're not talking.

I know I was wrong to bring my birthday into the argument, and I understand why he was hurt and disappointed. but i don't think his reaction was also right.

So, AITA for not being able to love him the same way anymore and needing time to get over what he said? Or am I being unfair by holding onto something he apologized for?