u/EntranceOld07

Long post ahead!

So, since the very first date, I feel like I have always been putting efforts to make my girlfriend happy by doing small stuff.

I have brought flowers on all the dates that I have gone out on with her, including the first. She said she likes lotus, I brought her lotuses and then some roses, sunflowers, white plumeria, Flamboyant on the next ones, sometimes plucked and sometimes bought.

On our first date, she mentioned how she likes dark chocolate and wants to try higher percentages of them (she mentioned it only once). On our second date (where I had picked a movie she might like), I brought her a 85% dark chocolate! And she was so happy and surprised! That smile brought a smile on my face!

I always make sure to pick her up and drop her off everytime we go out, even if I have to take the traffic route and an hour to reach to her. After a few dates, when I got the feeling both of us were into each other, I specially made a presentation curated according to her likes to ask her to be my girlfriend. I had to send her the presentation online (on email with some formal wordings ;) ) since we couldn’t meet at the time but she got soo excited and surprised to see that!

Sometimes when I actually miss her or really randomly feel like appreciating her, I send her small snippets of whatsapp texts appreciating her and complimenting her.

However, recently, I have started to feel like I am the only one usually putting in the effort to make her smile. I can’t remember the last time she complimented me, I can’t remember the last time she was affectionate with me. The most I have felt is when she calls me some cute names on texts. She did not make sure if I reached home after I drop her off (well that got fixed after I mentioned it to her). I would also love it if she brings a flower for me (which would make me feel like giving her a thousand back).

We have also been playing these games on apps for couples where basically you have questions and the couple answers. She often abstains from answering any questions which are even slightly related to getting physical, and it has basically become a taboo to talk about anything related to that in the relationship. Now, I like her so much that I don’t mind her taking time to get comfortable even if I have to wait patiently, however, not talking about it at all?
I do not mind not getting physical at all as well, but some communication would have been appreciated.

It has also always felt like its me being the one who has been wanting to see her, meet her and spend time with her by asking her out. Even though she has claimed that she likes to hangout with me, I have not felt enough times that she has told me that heyy we should meet or something. Maybee soon enough, I should be able to talk to her about all this!

Sheesh, that was long and somehow I feel better now. Thanks for listening!!