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Hi all,

I’m taking my mom out to dinner for her birthday in a few weeks time. I am looking for recommendations in Worcester City Centre. We are looking for -
- Somewhere that is independent to Worcester or the local area, not a chain.
- About £100 budget for two people.
- Open on a Monday evening.
- City centre location (or walkable from the city centre)
- My Mom has asked for somewhere with like an upscale pub/gastro pub/casual dining vibe, nothing too fancy.
We like most cuisines but I’m personally not a big fan of Thai food or seafood.
Thanks everyone!

I (F23) live with my parents (M57 and F60). I moved back in after I graduated from uni about 2 years ago and have been saving for a deposit on a flat, which I am close to achieving.

My Dad started working a fully remote job around the time I moved back in. He had been made redundant earlier that year so we were just glad he had got another job so quickly, and he seemed to really settle in to the remove working pattern.

However, now we are two years on, my mom and I have noticed a marked decline in his mental health and changes to his personality. He is snappy, experiences mood swings, can often say insulting things without realising they are offensive, and seems to struggle with talking to anyone other than us two. He doesn’t have much of a social life either, he has one friend he sees maybe once per month, and has no hobbies. Recently he has been isolating himself a lot more, often refusing to even do simple things with me or my mom like going for a walk, shopping, or going to the pub.

I love my Dad a lot and we have a really close bond, but I am concerned he is depressed. I have been depressed myself in the past so I am familiar with the signs. I’m not saying this is all purely based on the fact he is working fully remote, but I don’t think it helps given the fact he has no real contact with anyone else apart from the people he lives with (and we are both at work 4-5 days per week).

I have tried to express my concerns gently (not being overbearing or preachy), encouraged him to get out of the house (again just with simple things he used to enjoy like walking or going to the cinema) but I often get a push back. My mom has also tried speaking to him but he is unresponsive with her as well, just insisting he is fine but his behaviour and traits paint a different picture. I have even tried helping him search for hybrid or in-person jobs but he insists he is happy where he is.

I am becoming truly concerned for him, he seems to have very little motivation, his personality has changed significantly and he just seems so disconnected from everything. But he also doesn’t want to talk about it. I really don’t know what else to do. Does anyone have any advice in this situation? I know you can’t force someone to get help when they don’t want it.