My parents have never spoken to me normally. They don’t use normal tones of voice or address me normally.
idk how to describe it. But they really just don’t talk to me in a normal way and it’s exhausting.
I am considering volunteering for rasp at my 25H AIT. I am training up for it. Working on maxing my AFT scores.
But, I’ve heard about hazing and that makes me hesitant.
On the other hand, I’ve heard people say they regret not trying rasp and that the rangers live a better life than regular enlisted.
So what’s the ranger life like? And how bad is the hazing?
I (25m) am moving out and going NC in august.
Im ashamed it took me this long to finally get out. I can’t describe the hell I’ve been through that got me to this point. I just hope I can salvage my life and have my own family.
So many people already are doing incredible things at my age. But I’m a piece of shit with no success.
I was the scapegoat and my parents were very verbally and emotionally abusive.
This looked like curse words, insults, and screaming. I was frequently told to “shut the fuck up” and “you’re a fuckin idiot”. Sometimes it would escalate to bad things like “kill yourself”.
I don’t know if this is a common experience that scapegoats could relate to. So, let me know what it looked like for you. Thanks
I had to talk to my mom just for 5 minutes just to get some information for insurance. This was 2 days ago.
For the past 2 days I’ve had horrible dreams and today I’ve just been crying a lot. She didn’t say anything mean. Just from a 5 minute conversation, I got sad for multiple days.
They are so evil 😭
I’m not even mad at my narc parent. I know who they are now.
I am mad at my sibling. Our relationship is completely one sided. I was a damn good older brother, she is so lucky to have had me in her life. No bullshit, I raised her and helped her through life. I was her supporter and helped her every step of the way.
But she treats me like I’m beneath her.
She has been mean to me. I’ve gone to her for advice or support, and she just looks at me like I’m nothing. It’s like damn really? After I supported you when you were getting bullied? AFTER I DEFENDED YOU AGAINST OUR MOM WHO WAS TARGETING YOU?
It was the biggest mind-f**k.
Im pissed at her. That was such bullshit dude I swear.
I wish I didn’t get jealous of other people like this.
But I get so sad when I see other healthy parent-child relationships. I know it’s probably self-centered and narcissistic, but I can’t help it.
I’m 24 and joining this summer. I need to reset my life and get my shit together.
Did anyone else do this, and did it work?
I’m joining in august for a signal job.
Im at rock bottom and I think I need the army to give me a fresh start. I had a pretty screwed up childhood (dad is schizophrenic and mom was probably too). I’m now working construction in my hometown and making okay $.
I am pretty disciplined. I don’t have any substance issues, I run multiple times per week, and I’m really trying to become a good person and adult.
I just need a kick in the ass and the structure of the military sounded like something I needed. So I signed up.
Does anyone have a story of how they turned their life around in the army?
I went to east fork lake in the evening a couple weeks ago. It didn’t feel like a peaceful or relaxing place. When it was getting dark, a guy sat on a bench near me and was watching me. I’m a guy so I wasn’t really afraid of him, but it all just felt super weird.
Idk, anyone else know what I’m talking about?
I feel like I’m in another universe when compared to other people who have relationships with their parents.
Part of me feels like I need to get over it because most people don’t have good relationships with their parents.
But part of me feels like I am the only one who has horribly toxic relationships with their parents.
Im not really sure… Obviously it’s somewhere in the middle. But I just don’t know
I know IT and CS are very competitive in the job market right now. How are the skills transferring over?
Anyone else find it impossible to communicate with narcissistic parents? Almost as if you are speaking 2 different languages?
I have never been able to just converse with either of them.
Whenever they talk to me there is always some angle they are coming at or some negativity.
I (25m) am still living with one of them. I am joining the military in august. So I’ll be NC forever after i leave.
I just feel sad because I should be farther in life. Every step of the way they’ve made my life so hard. Abuse from others stunted me too.
I was aware of how bad they were, but never was able to get a good footing on life. Between abuse, low paying jobs, and no social life…. It’s just been so insane.
Golly, I hope life becomes more simple once I’m gone. Cuz the past 25 years have been pure insanity
My QOL is pretty crap right now. Working construction and stuck in my hometown. I don’t talk to my family anymore, so life’s pretty tough rn.
Did anyones QOL increase in the army? I’m joining in august
My QOL is pretty crap right now. Working construction and stuck in my hometown. I don’t talk to my family anymore, so life’s pretty tough rn.
Did anyones QOL increase in the army? I’m joining in august
Is the QOL better in aviation, compared to regular army?
Are there 5 year contracts for 15T/15U?
Did anyone else have a one-sided and unequal relationship with their sibling.
I was a very good older brother to my sister. I drove her to school, I helped her make her resume, helped her choose a major, helped her get over bullying, etc.
But she was never kind to me at all. She would do really weird things like compare me to her boyfriend and put me down.
The bottom line was our “relationship” was completely one sided and I feel so taken advantage of.
Does anyone relate?