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Blindsided by breakup and now running into him in public.

Blindsided by breakup and now running into him in public.

So he (25M) broke up with me (25F) out of nowhere. A week after asking me to buy $2000 tickets to go to Italy with his family. A few days before my hardest finals week of dental school. A month passed and I’m feeling healed and honestly great. And then I run into him at a DJ event. I didn’t mind that night because I stood my ground and continued to enjoy my night despite him coming up to talk to me.

Two days later fast forward to tonight. I’m out with my friends and I see him with his friends. His brothers’ girlfriend (someone who hated me for no reason) makes eye contact with me and says “Oh god”. My ex also never liked her and would always shit talk her. So that leads into this message that I’m going to type here so I don’t break no contact and don’t text him. BUT still debating sending it do I send it and break no contact?

Tonight I made eye contact with xxxxx and she said, “oh god.” And honestly, that really hurt! I’ve never been anything but respectful despite never receiving the same treatment, so being treated like that feels unfair, especially after the month I’ve had.

What’s difficult for me is that I already feel emotionally exhausted, and interactions like that make me feel like I’m not even allowed to enjoy being out in LA without feeling targeted.

I debated sending this because I don’t like conflict, but I also think I’m allowed to stand up for myself and say when something crosses a line. I just hope there can be some level of basic respect and consideration moving forward.

So he broke up with me out of nowhere. A week after asking me to buy $2000 tickets to go to Italy with his family. A few days before my hardest finals week of dental school. A month passed and I’m feeling healed and honestly great. And then I run into him at a DJ event. I didn’t mind that night because I stood my ground and continued to enjoy my night despite him coming up to talk to me.

Two days later fast forward to tonight. I’m out with my friends and I see him with his friends. His brothers’ girlfriend (someone who hated me for no reason) makes eye contact with me and says “Oh god”. My ex also never liked her and would always shit talk her. So that leads into this message that I’m going to type here so I don’t break no contact and don’t text him. BUT still debating sending it do I send it?——-

Tonight I made eye contact with xxxxx and she said, “oh god.” And honestly, that really hurt! I’ve never been anything but respectful despite never receiving the same treatment, so being treated like that feels unfair, especially after the month I’ve had.

What’s difficult for me is that I already feel emotionally exhausted, and interactions like that make me feel like I’m not even allowed to enjoy being out in LA without feeling targeted.

I debated sending this because I don’t like conflict, but I also think I’m allowed to stand up for myself and say when something crosses a line. I just hope there can be some level of basic respect and consideration moving forward.

My boyfriend 25M broke up with me 25F about a month ago now. Out of nowhere. I think an avoidant discard. It was a few days before the hardest finals week of my grad school. I went on vacation after finals and felt myself healing a little bit. And then I found out some things and it caused me to regress. But then I came back and felt myself feeling better. A lot better. Not thinking about it as much, no more crying. But then yesterday out of nowhere I was sitting in the park alone and just started sobbing, missing him, feeling the memories of us disappearing. Losing him. Why isn’t healing linear? I just want to feel okay and have it be left at that.

My boyfriend (25M) broke up with me (25F). He was my first everything. We were so in love. We were together for 1.5 years. This year things got a bit bad where we would have these difficult conversations that would never get resolved and just pushed under. But we tried our best to resolve things. And we were always willing to fight for each other. I think it all caught up to him and he wanted to break up. But the night before he said he loved me so much and I had sent him pictures I took in class and he told me how he looked at them with music playing in the back. That night we also had a conversation about how hard it’s been but he said he didn’t want to break up and wanted to continue to work on things. That morning he said he felt good about us. By the night came, he said he felt unsure about us and we had a hard conversation. I asked him if he was breaking up with me and he just kept saying “I don’t know”. I think in a sense I’m still holding on to that as false hope. But i also hold a lot of resentment. For me, it came out of nowhere. And he did it the week before my hardest finals week of grad school. He also said it was hard to be in a relationship with me when I had so much to worry about with school. I even told him going into the relationship it would be hard with school and he was okay with that. But I can’t change that fact, I’m in school and in some situations it has to be put first. After the breakup, he has erased every part of me on social media and started following like 5 girls a day. I feel really sad about the situation. We were so in love and so compatible despite being such different people. It’s been about 3 weeks and as much as I try to distract myself and try not to check his social media, nothing seems to be working. I’m literally on vacation sad as fuck. Our lives were so intertwined as well. How do I get over a breakup? My first heartbreak. :/

He has admitted that he has an avoidant attachment style but I rarely felt that way throughout the relationship. Everything about our love was amazing

Addition: the weekend before he told me to buy plane tickets to go to vacation with his family, and we had a great conversation about how excited we were about our future together. I just feel so confused and blindsided. It’s preventing me from moving on, despite trying almost everything to do so.

There’s so much to say and I could vent for hours. I just want to never feel this way again. I feel like I’m watching my house burn down and there’s nothing I can save. My love for him was so vast that all I can think about is I hope he’s doing okay, despite me going through the biggest betrayal. Please tell me what I can do to make this feeling go away.

My boyfriend (25M) broke up with me (25F). He was my first everything. We were so in love. We were together for 1.5 years. This year things got a bit bad where we would have these difficult conversations that would never get resolved and just pushed under. But we tried our best to resolve things. And we were always willing to fight for each other. I think it all caught up to him and he wanted to break up. But the night before he said he loved me so much and I had sent him pictures I took in class and he told me how he looked at them with music playing in the back. That night we also had a conversation about how hard it’s been but he said he didn’t want to break up and wanted to continue to work on things. That morning he said he felt good about us. By the night came, he said he felt unsure about us and we had a hard conversation. I asked him if he was breaking up with me and he just kept saying “I don’t know”. I think in a sense I’m still holding on to that as false hope. But i also hold a lot of resentment. For me, it came out of nowhere. And he did it the week before my hardest finals week of grad school. He also said it was hard to be in a relationship with me when I had so much to worry about with school. I even told him going into the relationship it would be hard with school and he was okay with that. But I can’t change that fact, I’m in school and in some situations it has to be put first. After the breakup, he has erased every part of me on social media and started following like 5 girls a day. I feel really sad about the situation. We were so in love and so compatible despite being such different people. It’s been about 3 weeks and as much as I try to distract myself and try not to check his social media, nothing seems to be working. I’m literally on vacation sad as fuck. Our lives were so intertwined as well. How do I get over a breakup? My first heartbreak. :/

He has admitted that he has an avoidant attachment style but I rarely felt that way throughout the relationship. Everything about our love was amazing

Addition: the weekend before he told me to buy plane tickets to go to vacation with his family, and we had a great conversation about how excited we were about our future together. I just feel so confused and blindsided. It’s preventing me from moving on, despite trying almost everything to do so.

There’s so much to say and I could vent for hours. I just want to never feel this way again. I feel like I’m watching my house burn down and there’s nothing I can save. My love for him was so vast that all I can think about is I hope he’s doing okay, despite me going through the biggest betrayal. Please tell me what I can do to make this feeling go away.