u/Equal_Cellist_1210

This is going to be long and I apologize. I matched with this guy on tinder like a year ago. There is some ties to a couple of my friends and they mentioned he was a good guy. Very child focused with his kids. very involved in sports. my divorce was just over. we chatted it was cool he asked me out. a couple days before he said he ended up having to work. We never rescheduled. Shit just faded. I started seeing someone shortly after and got off tinder whatever. I ended things with the guy a few months ago. I got back on tinder and opened with a fun flirty message. so we end up messaging a bit and then actually go out. that went well and then he went quiet which tracks with his kid weeks the same as mine. I reopened he came and hung out we had great conversations and ended up having amazing sex for hours and in between we talked and laughed. A couple days later he checked in with me we chatted then told me have a good week. so the conversation closed for the week again when we both had our kids. Then reopened the conversation when it got to kid free week. he scheduled a day to come hang out. It was short but ok. I hit him up a couple days later inviting him out but he already had plans with his dad no worries. but now it’s quiet again. he is on kid week and so am I. that tracks right? He has commented on how chill it is with me and that he enjoyed the conversation too. There was some spicy messaging between us between date/hang out 2 &3. He moved the conversation off tinder.

Now I’m over here over thinking. I know he is still active on tinder and so am I. Its new and we haven’t gotten anywhere near the point of exclusivity. I just don’t want my time and energy wasted. Is he a slow roll kind of guy and is this normal early dating behaviors? I was married for almost 20 years so I have zero idea what Im doing. I don’t want to come across as needy but I also don’t want just a hook up.

I have handled other connections just fine with out it being weird or being so anxious. I don't know why this one is different.

This is going to be long and I apologize. I matched with this guy on tinder like a year ago. There is some ties to a couple of my friends and they mentioned he was a good guy. Very child focused with his kids. very involved in sports. my divorce was just over. we chatted it was cool he asked me out. a couple days before he said he ended up having to work. We never rescheduled. Shit just faded. I started seeing someone shortly after and got off tinder whatever. I ended things with the guy a few months ago. I got back on tinder and opened with a fun flirty message. so we end up messaging a bit and then actually go out. that went well and then he went quiet which tracks with his kid weeks the same as mine. I reopened he came and hung out we had great conversations and ended up having amazing sex for hours and in between we talked and laughed. A couple days later he checked in with me we chatted then told me have a good week. so the conversation closed for the week again when we both had our kids. Then reopened the conversation when it got to kid free week. he scheduled a day to come hang out. It was short but ok. I hit him up a couple days later inviting him out but he already had plans with his dad no worries. but now it’s quiet again. he is on kid week and so am I. that tracks right? He has commented on how chill it is with me and that he enjoyed the conversation too. There was some spicy messaging between us between date/hang out 2 &3. He moved the conversation off tinder.

Now I’m over here over thinking. I know he is still active on tinder and so am I. Its new and we haven’t gotten anywhere near the point of exclusivity. I just don’t want my time and energy wasted. Is he a slow roll kind of guy and is this normal early dating behaviors? I was married for almost 20 years so I have zero idea what Im doing. I don’t want to come across as needy but I also don’t want just a hook up.

I have handled other connections just fine with out it being weird or being so anxious. I don't know why this one is different.