u/Equal_Gap_8437

Whenever i'm texting someone of interest, any amount of time (that isn't normal like past 1hr etc.) feels so damaging. It feels like one of these options:

1. ⁠they don't like me and i need to take the hint

2. ⁠i did/said something that ruined my chances

and it's hard to not think this because when Im texting, even if im busy i can at the very least send a text saying "hey busy but ill hit you soon". in fact, the only way i WONT respond or communicate properly is if im not interested so it only makes sense the inverse is true when im the one they don't like. my brain can't comprehend someone being too busy to text. i start to spiral and imagine a list of scenarios , none of which are positive, and it makes me feel super sad. sometimes (rarely) i even confront them about it. not in a mean way but just asking if they're busy or if they're interested and sometimes THAT is the catalyst to scare people away.

i guess what im wondering is if anyone can relate and if anyone has some non-medical (bc i think u can't ask for that in this subreddit) advice on how to deal with this?

Whenever i'm texting someone of interest, any amount of time (that isn't normal like past 1hr etc.) feels so damaging. It feels like one of these options:

1. they don't like me and i need to take the hint

2. i did/said something that ruined my chances

and it's hard to not think this because when Im texting, even if im busy i can at the very least send a text saying "hey busy but ill hit you soon". in fact, the only way i WONT respond or communicate properly is if im not interested so it only makes sense the inverse is true when im the one they don't like. my brain can't comprehend someone being too busy to text. i start to spiral and imagine a list of scenarios , none of which are positive, and it makes me feel super sad. sometimes (rarely) i even confront them about it. not in a mean way but just asking if they're busy or if they're interested and sometimes THAT is the catalyst to scare people away.

i guess what im wondering is if anyone can relate and if anyone has some non-medical (bc i think u can't ask for that in this subreddit) advice on how to deal with this?