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Hi. I'm 23M, and I've been with my girlfriend 22F for five months, but we were best friends before that. Here's the thing: I'm just not feeling a physical connection with her beyond hugs. I really like her as a person, and I value our friendship, but I don't feel the romantic spark.
To complicate things, I've started to think I'm falling for my friend 24M, who is gay. I'm bi, and I vented to him about my issues with my girlfriend he probabley wasn't the best choice. He's been supportive, but also a bit flirty, and honestly, I think I'm developing strong feelings for him. I haven't acted on anything, and I've kept him at arm's length physically, but I can tell he's frustrated.
I'm torn because I care about my girlfriend deeply, but I don't love her in the way a boyfriend should. I love her as a friend, and this has nothing to do with her as a person – it's all me being confused.
What should I do? How do I navigate these feelings for my friend while being in a relationship? And how do I even begin to address the lack of physical connection with my girlfriend without hurting her? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.