u/EquivalentDiamond359

I was in a very short but intense situationship with this guy I had great chemistry and vibed with. But it got really messy quickly when he kept on giving mixed signals and insist on being friends but only to be romantic towards me (ie: kissing me after saying he only saw us a friends).

We went no contact for two months. After coming out of my first relationship, I knew it was a very dumb idea if I initiated or reached out to him. Two weeks ago he sends me the following text, “hey u doing okay.” It took me like a few days to respond and I told him that I had been going through some very difficult times both personally and financially. He responded to the initial texts by being understanding and apologizing for what he did. But when he asked what the situation was and I elaborated, he simply made a light hearted joke about it.

Since then, I haven’t responded to his text message which was something stupid. But I’m just confused. Why did he even reach out if he wasn’t going to be engaged or go out of his way to reconnect?

I (24F) am a reserved and socially awkward person on top of being an introvert. My whole life I struggled with social interactions and had been bullied for being weird early on in childhood. I have masked my whole life and tried my best to improve my social skills. As an adult, I haven’t struggled in making friends or interacting with people as much I did in childhood. However, that doesn’t mean the issue is gone now.

I moved into an apartment with 3 other women around my age range a few months ago. Initially, I really tried to get to know them by greeting them or asking how their day was. But everytime, I interacted with them it just never evolved into anything more than brief exchanges. I share a bathroom with one of housemates and initially I tried my best to be close or get to know her. She is nice to me, but she isn’t expressive or conversational with me as she is with my 2 other housemates. I feel like out of the three, I am somewhat socially comfortable with only one. Overall, my three other housemates all interact with each other where they’re all close and talkative. They bond over going out to clubs and bars (one of them is also a former sorority member) while I’m more of a homebody who occasionally goes out to cafes or restaurants during the daytimes to catch up with people.

I’ve learned the very hard way that I can’t force myself to be close to people. But I just feel insecure when I can’t click with other women due to my perceived oddness or insecurity.

Does anyone feel the same way that I do? As someone who is neurodivergent especially as a woman, I feel like we are under stricter scrunity for our mannerisms and the way we present ourselves.