My partner has been suffering Post Partum depression/Rage since the birth of our son. Prior to giving birth, we rarely had any arguments/fights for the 2 years together. She is in denial of her Depression and refuses to take any medication. We have tried couples therapy but we are unable to continue with our current therapist due to today’s incident (ethical obligation from thearpist).
To summarize her behavior, her Tone, demeanor and the way she talks to me is angry and not from a position of love. Th most common response I get when I communicate the way she talks to me is I am being “sensitive” and “dramatic”. When confronted regarding her feelings of anxiety, rage, etc. my partner has a habit of blaming me for her feelings “You are the cause for my rage”/ “You are the cause for my anxiety. For me, this is 100% gaslighting behavior. For the past two days, I have been trying to hold my son and tried to take my son for a walk around the block to get out of the house. My partner refused to let me leave the house with him for just 30 minutes saying “you are trying to take my son away from me”
In summary, my partner prevented me from leaving my apartment, holding our son until I “apologized for something I did yesterday”. My goal is to walk away when things become unreasonable so that is what I tried to do. My partner positioned her body in front of the door and refused to move after I asked her to move away (holding our son).
Recognizing this is emotional/physical abuse, I started to record the interaction with my phone. This enraged her more. She approached me, walked trying to take the phone away from my hand and for doing so hit my with the hand I was recording twice, trying to grab the phone out of my hand.
My job requires me to be a mandatory reporter so I reported the incident to the police.
My son is currently at her parents house with her and she left before the police arrive. For now, I feel some safety knowing that my son is with her grandparents.
I told her that my red line if any physical violence. I ended my relationship with her.
I am confused on what to do regarding my son. Part of me wants to walk away from everything and give him the opportunity to reach out to me later in life. I still want to be apart of his life, but with work and no support to take care of my son, I don’t know what else I can do.
I truly don’t know what to do at this point.