u/EquivalentGap4141

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I am certain my daughter is not telling a tale or anything of the sort. She has a wild imagination, she’s 6. She pulls all sorts of crazy stories out of her little noggin. This is not that.

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Recently my 6 year old daughter informed me that her grandmother (her dad’s mom, who has been the main person I’ve trusted to watch my daughter throughout her life) used to let her “breast feed” every night she would sleep over. The conversation/s were much more lengthy and involved than that. But I did my best to ask without leading. Ask if there were clothes on. Where it happened. How often. Why. When did it stop. Everything.

What I understand is that her grandmother would expose herself to my daughter and ask her if she wanted “it.” To go to sleep? To soothe? I don’t know. It makes me feel sick, genuinely. When I asked if it was just once, my daughter responded with “No, MILLIONS! All the time. Any time I spent the night with her.”

Her 76 year old grandmother encouraged her to suck her naked breast regularly. I asked her why/when it stopped, she said one day when she was three or four (she can’t remember exactly, but she says she wasn’t a baby anymore, and she could talk) grammies said “noooo, i don’t think your mommy and daddy would like this very much.”

So she stopped when my daughter was able to articulate and communicate clearly.

I guess I’m looking for other parent’s opinions on this. Her dad refuses to see it as a big deal (it’s his mom….) He says she was only trying to be nurturing. My mom thinks I should report it.

I want to make it clear that my daughter has not been to her grandmother’s house since. And will not be left alone with her again.

Edit: I should note that her father has been incarcerated for a year and will be for the next 9 years unless he manages to get some time shaved off. His involvement in this isn’t really a concern. I told him about it because I respect him as my daughter’s father.

There was a lot of gaslighting and sweeping things under the rug in our relationship- a lot of which I’m still coming to terms with. His family is weird. Extremely NICE. Would cut off a limb for a stranger kind of nice. DEVOUT catholic- go to church at least 3 times a week. Host Bible studies and house missionaries when they’re in town. Any concern or distrust I had towards his mom always got turned into me having trust issues or being impossible. His mom was a saint and I was always the problem. And after years of that, I started to believe it. Trusting myself and my own gut is hard for me now. Sucks. But I am working on it.

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Recently my 6 year old daughter informed me that her grandmother (her dad’s mom, who has been the main person I’ve trusted to watch my daughter throughout her life) used to let her “breast feed” every night she would sleep over. The conversation/s were much more lengthy and involved than that. But I did my best to ask without leading. Ask if there were clothes on. Where it happened. How often. Why. When did it stop. Everything.

What I understand is that her grandmother would expose herself to my daughter and ask her if she wanted “it.” To go to sleep? To soothe? I don’t know. It makes me feel sick, genuinely. When I asked if it was just once, my daughter responded with “No, MILLIONS! All the time. Any time I spent the night with her.”

Her 76 year old grandmother encouraged her to suck her naked breast regularly. I asked her why/when it stopped, she said one day when she was three or four (she can’t remember exactly, but she says she wasn’t a baby anymore, and she could talk) grammies said “noooo, i don’t think your mommy and daddy would like this very much.”

So she stopped when my daughter was able to articulate and communicate clearly.

I guess I’m looking for other parent’s opinions on this. Her dad refuses to see it as a big deal (it’s his mom….) He says she was only trying to be nurturing. My mom thinks I should report it.

I want to make it clear that my daughter has not been to her grandmother’s house since. And will not be left alone with her again.