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I (26F) am getting an abortion and don’t know if I should tell my fiancé (28M)

My fiancé and I have been together for over 6 years. We’ve discussed kids many many times. I will not have a child until I am married, and even then I am not crazy about the idea of having any, 1-2 at most. He’s always wanted children, but says he’s pro choice. He talks about kids often, what he’d want to name them, how we’d make it work, all that stuff.

On 6/6, I had taken two pregnancy tests as my period was late, which is really uncommon for me. Both came back positive. I’ve never been pregnant before, I didn’t even notice any symptoms since I was expecting my normal cycle to show up. Immediately after getting those results, I went and ordered prescription abortion pills.

I haven’t told him or anyone else that I’m currently pregnant. I’m scared of being pregnant in the first place, and I’m afraid he’d want me to continue with this pregnancy. I know this is not the right time for me, we’re in the midst of wedding planning, I’m working towards a big promotion, I can’t financially support a child, and a million other reasons why I’m not ready. It feels wrong to not tell him and do this alone, but I don’t want to create any animosity about my decision from his side. I’m just at such a loss of what to do.

NOT looking for any opinions on abortion/pro-life pro-choice debate.

TL;DR: I am getting an abortion and scared to tell my fiancé as I think he’d want me to keep the pregnancy

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Recently discovered I’m pregnant, planning an abortion. Don’t know if I should tell fiancé

My (26F) period was about 3 days late, which is really uncommon for me. Took two tests on 6/6 and they’re both positive, so I immediately went and got prescription abortion pills ordered. I know this is the right choice for me as I’m in the middle of wedding planning, trying to get a promotion at work, and I’m generally not ready for this.

I haven’t told my fiancé (28M) about this pregnancy. I’ve never been pregnant before and I’m honestly nervous to tell him as I think he may want me to continue with this pregnancy. It feels wrong to not tell him anything and do this alone, but I also don’t want to create any animosity because I’ve decided to terminate this.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? I don’t know how to approach this topic with him.

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