u/Equivalent_Catch70

Everything Changed Overnight

Everything was going well in life.

Completed my graduation, got a job in IB, finally felt like things were falling into place.

And then within seconds everything shattered.

My mom met with an accident and I lost her.

I was talking to her in the afternoon, and by night she was gone.

It’s been more than a year and I still haven’t recovered from it. I try to live normally, smile normally, work normally… but deep inside nothing feels normal anymore. I can’t control my emotions. Sometimes I feel completely numb — no tears left, just pain hidden behind a smile.

10 months later, I stepped into the corporate world from scratch as an intern. Worked hard for 6 months, got another offer, thought maybe life was finally moving again.

Then boom.

After resigning and accepting the new offer, they rejected me because of some internal HR guideline change. Just like that.

Now I’m in a new city, jobless, trying to survive on my own again.

And the one person I thought would be my support system — my dad — is having an affair with someone else. He knows that I know, and I pretend everything is alright because I don’t even have the energy left to confront it anymore.

But deep inside, the hate towards him keeps increasing every single day.

After losing my mom, I expected him to be the one person who would hold the family together, or at least understand the pain we were going through. Instead, watching all this happen feels like another betrayal added on top of grief.

Maybe people will say he has his own loneliness, his own life, his own way of coping. Maybe that’s true.

But as a son, it destroys something inside you to witness it while you’re still trying to survive the loss of your mother.

Everything feels so fucked up that some days I wonder why I’m even waking up and living for. Every day feels heavy. Like I’m just breathing and surviving without motivation, without direction, without any real purpose.

I don’t even know why I’m writing this here. Maybe I just wanted someone to hear me.

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u/Equivalent_Catch70 — 13 days ago

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I’m currently working at a large multinational bank in a corporate salary team role, which is basically a pure sales job. The pay is decent (~40k INR stipend), but honestly, the work isn’t aligned with what I want to do long-term.

Some of my fellow interns have been placed in much better roles (even investment banking-related), which makes me feel like I got the short end of the stick in terms of learning and career growth.

Now, after about 6 months, I’ve received an offer from a well-known finance company for a Financial Data Analyst role. The catch? The stipend is almost half of what I’m currently earning.

I’m really confused:

- On one hand, I’d be taking a significant pay cut

- On the other hand, the new role is much more aligned with finance, analytics, and my long-term goals

For context, I want to build a career in finance (possibly research/analytics side), and I’m also planning to pursue further qualifications like CFA.

So my question is — is it worth taking a pay cut early in your career for better role alignment and learning? Or should I stick with the higher-paying role for now?

Would really appreciate advice from people who’ve faced similar decisions 🙏

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u/Equivalent_Catch70 — 25 days ago