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I have Quest 2 which I use only for Beat Saber, and my controllers runs out of battery after 3-4 sessions what are 1-1,5 hours max. It drives me crazy how fast the battery is running low, so can you guys share, maybe some of you had the same problem? Maybe I’m doing something wrong using it? Or is it normal? Because I got used that, if an electronic device uses batteries, I put them and then forgetting about it for a decade XD
I’m pretty sure that the problem might be in my AA batteries what I put in the controllers — I’m not an expert in batteries, so the thing I bought might be shitty. So, I’ll be happy to hear some advices about which batteries I should buy!
Thank you and have a good day!

Hey everyone. First of all, I want to believe all of us will get through this unpleasant experience as fast as possible and we’ll be fully happy again. I believe in you; don’t push yourself hard and be kind to yourself, we can do this!

So, I have a group of seven friends; we got to know each other because I ran a Minecraft server with seven places strict and they responded to the idea. Despite the fact that we acquainted just 4 months ago, we got very close and I even met with one of these friends (we live in different cities) and I felt a strong connection between us. Plus, we were playing this Minecraft server and that bonded us together even more.

The story begins three or four weeks ago from today’s date. One of my friends — let’s call her Louise (name completely changed) — from this group suddenly quitted our group chat, unfollowed all of ours personal channels (we shared our shitpost pages and were commenting and liking each other sometimes) and weren’t responding to messages (nor mine or others). From this very point, I got really tensed and basically all of us were really worrying about our friend, since we knew Louise had problems and weren’t really emotionally stable. All of our server life, our friendship was paused because of this situation and our lack of understanding it. The only thing we were chatting in our group for weeks was “do you know something about Louise?” I was thinking days and nights what happened with her, and at the same time I was angry.

Angryyyy… this emotion was with me from the very beginning. I knew Louise might have serious issues, but I couldn’t help being angry at her. I was frustrated with the lack of information about what happened and I saw she was reading my messages, but not responding. I couldn’t help thinking that she could’ve at least message one time and explain something as me and my friends who stayed was worrying.

At this point, I was frustrated, angry and ashamed of two things: first, being angry at a friend who might’ve struggling and needed my compassion, and second, caring too much and straining my nerves over something I can’t control and change (I can’t make her message me, explain me the situation, so I’m just worrying with no point and should calm down).

Maybe a week ago, Louise responded; not me, but one of our friends (from this very same server). She said she “should be alone”, apologised and stopped on that. Still, nobody understands what had happened.

We all agreed what we should have Louise space and don’t try to force her to anything (the only answer the friend who Louise messaged gave, and we all agreed with it, — something like “we won’t force you to anything and we all want the best for you”. And I personally agree with that, I was one of the first people who said it.

I should mention all these 3-4 weeks our talking about Louise was only in positive-compassionate way. We all were worrying and all of my friends looked genuinely upset and compassionate towards Louise, but no one was speaking about anger, and me neither — I felt scary to talk about that and felt evil for being the only angry in our group. But after we received a message, I couldn’t hold back and brought out my feelings — I asked if anyone is feeling angry as hell and explained myself. Turned out I wasn’t completely alone — almost everyone was either sympathetic towards me and comforting me (big thanks to them!!) or even felt the courage to speak out about similar feelings. As a “leader” of the group, I felt happy that my message made them feel more valid (note: I wouldn’t call myself a leader of my friends, but I hosted the server and sometimes they rely on me and calling me “the leader”. It’s not about me being above them or something like that: we all equal and nobody feels fearful/formal/overrespectful towards me; and sometimes I feel responsible for the group, but I think it’s my own feelings not gained because of the group. Anyway, I feel secured, so do them!).

And still, all of them were speaking about slightly different/less intense feelings — annoyance or frustration. I still feel evil.

Because spoke about being driven to tears of anger, trigger to Louise that causes blood boiling. I feel left out and incredibly offended, I want clearness, I want apologies for me and my friends for causing me and my friends so much worrying. I want to make sure everyone — my friends, Louise, the whole world — understands that that happened is not mine or my friends’ responsibility and fault. Plus, we think that Louise is going through something tough, and yet I saw her many times in the media space after she ghosted, talking with people and launching her own project. I know this isn’t a sign she’s fine, but I feel we were thinking about much worse situation. I think I want justice and clearness.

And at the same time, I feel strongly stupid for caring too much. I told about this situation one more close person, and she was so surprised that I was feeling something at all. She said me something with a message “stop feeling” so casually that I felt stupid. It feels like it’s my own fault that I worry (I genuinely have no idea if it’s right or not) and I need to stop so I’m not complicating my life, life of my friend group and my close ones, but I don’t know how. I feel stupid.

And at the same time, I feel ashamed. As I said previously, I feel like I should be compassionate to Louise. She’s probably going through something tough and I feel like I’m beating an ill person with my legs. Plus, being so frustrated and emotional about the situation feels immature. Everyone around me (even my friend group) feels pretty chill about it by now, and I just can’t let go.

And at the same time, I feel left out and evil. Nobody feels like me in this situation and I can’t find a simple understanding (which is one of my reasons I came here). Plus, everyone look so compassionate and calm about Louise, and I’m here, ready to explode. I feel lack of empathy and insecure.

AND at the same time, I miss Louise. Of course I miss her. We were a really good friends, and even by now I see what’s left of our friendship. On our Minecraft server, we shared a house and she left her one own building right next to it. Most of the time I feel angry, but when I see it, I feel like a wave of sadness wash over me and I want her to come back more than anything else. My group feels incomplete for me now without her.

And at the same time, I feel like I don’t want her to came back. My ideal solution for this situation feels moving forward and living my own life. If she’ll come back, I might feel too much and even be rude to her. I don’t want this, and I don’t want to hold on a hope that it’ll happen.

And at the same time, I feel responsible. I feel really responsible for my group of friends. I’m the leader and in situations like this, I should organise everything and help everyone. The chaos is happening — we don’t know what to do next, we’re happy after our honest conversation, but a little bis confused how to run the server further. Should we find a new person for the server? Should we do something with the buildings Louise left? I need to answer these questions for the group and make sure everyone feels fine, but the irony is that I got the most wrecked up by what happened. I feel like a bad leader.

To sum up, I feel an urge to let this situation and move forward, and at the same moment I want so badly Louise to come back. I feel anger and desire to be comforted and understood, and at the same time I feel ashamed for caring too much and caring like this (I mean that I “care” in the meaning I’m angry, and all of my friends “care” being compassionate towards Louise). My friend group feels different from me and I’m feeling evil, because 6 people experienced the same as me and they feel compassion and hope that Louise is fine, maybe a little bit of annoyance, when I feel angry, frustrated and overwhelmed, and my compassion towards Louise it not on the first place for sure.
I’m not sure if the problem is that I should do a little reflection and do something to make my view in this situation more mature, or I should care about myself and let myself feel what I feel?

I know this is a difficult situation and you guys can’t give me panacea. And still, I’m craving for your experience and advices you might be able to give me. A little support and understanding will be as precious as advices. I’m sorry if my message is wrong Im some places, I’m not a native English speaker!

And if you’re here, I guess you read it all. Haha, you’re a good reader! Thank you so much, and I hope you feel fine. <3

Hey everyone. First of all, I want to believe all of us will get through this unpleasant experience as fast as possible and we’ll be fully happy again. I believe in you; don’t push yourself hard and be kind to yourself, we can do this!

So, I have a group of seven friends; we got to know each other because I ran a Minecraft server with seven places strict and they responded to the idea. Despite the fact that we acquainted just 4 months ago, we got very close and I even met with one of these friends (we live in different cities) and I felt a strong connection between us. Plus, we were playing this Minecraft server and that bonded us together even more.

The story begins three or four weeks ago from today’s date. One of my friends — let’s call her Louise (name completely changed) — from this group suddenly quitted our group chat, unfollowed all of ours personal channels (we shared our shitpost pages and were commenting and liking each other sometimes) and weren’t responding to messages (nor mine or others). From this very point, I got really tensed and basically all of us were really worrying about our friend, since we knew Louise had problems and weren’t really emotionally stable. All of our server life, our friendship was paused because of this situation and our lack of understanding it. The only thing we were chatting in our group for weeks was “do you know something about Louise?” I was thinking days and nights what happened with her, and at the same time I was angry.

Angryyyy… this emotion was with me from the very beginning. I knew Louise might have serious issues, but I couldn’t help being angry at her. I was frustrated with the lack of information about what happened and I saw she was reading my messages, but not responding. I couldn’t help thinking that she could’ve at least message one time and explain something as me and my friends who stayed was worrying.

At this point, I was frustrated, angry and ashamed of two things: first, being angry at a friend who might’ve struggling and needed my compassion, and second, caring too much and straining my nerves over something I can’t control and change (I can’t make her message me, explain me the situation, so I’m just worrying with no point and should calm down).

Maybe a week ago, Louise responded; not me, but one of our friends (from this very same server). She said she “should be alone”, apologised and stopped on that. Still, nobody understands what had happened.

We all agreed what we should have Louise space and don’t try to force her to anything (the only answer the friend who Louise messaged gave, and we all agreed with it, — something like “we won’t force you to anything and we all want the best for you”. And I personally agree with that, I was one of the first people who said it.

I should mention all these 3-4 weeks our talking about Louise was only in positive-compassionate way. We all were worrying and all of my friends looked genuinely upset and compassionate towards Louise, but no one was speaking about anger, and me neither — I felt scary to talk about that and felt evil for being the only angry in our group. But after we received a message, I couldn’t hold back and brought out my feelings — I asked if anyone is feeling angry as hell and explained myself. Turned out I wasn’t completely alone — almost everyone was either sympathetic towards me and comforting me (big thanks to them!!) or even felt the courage to speak out about similar feelings. As a “leader” of the group, I felt happy that my message made them feel more valid (note: I wouldn’t call myself a leader of my friends, but I hosted the server and sometimes they rely on me and calling me “the leader”. It’s not about me being above them or something like that: we all equal and nobody feels fearful/formal/overrespectful towards me; and sometimes I feel responsible for the group, but I think it’s my own feelings not gained because of the group. Anyway, I feel secured, so do them!).

And still, all of them were speaking about slightly different/less intense feelings — annoyance or frustration. I still feel evil.

Because spoke about being driven to tears of anger, trigger to Louise that causes blood boiling. I feel left out and incredibly offended, I want clearness, I want apologies for me and my friends for causing me and my friends so much worrying. I want to make sure everyone — my friends, Louise, the whole world — understands that that happened is not mine or my friends’ responsibility and fault. Plus, we think that Louise is going through something tough, and yet I saw her many times in the media space after she ghosted, talking with people and launching her own project. I know this isn’t a sign she’s fine, but I feel we were thinking about much worse situation. I think I want justice and clearness.

And at the same time, I feel strongly stupid for caring too much. I told about this situation one more close person, and she was so surprised that I was feeling something at all. She said me something with a message “stop feeling” so casually that I felt stupid. It feels like it’s my own fault that I worry (I genuinely have no idea if it’s right or not) and I need to stop so I’m not complicating my life, life of my friend group and my close ones, but I don’t know how. I feel stupid.

And at the same time, I feel ashamed. As I said previously, I feel like I should be compassionate to Louise. She’s probably going through something tough and I feel like I’m beating an ill person with my legs. Plus, being so frustrated and emotional about the situation feels immature. Everyone around me (even my friend group) feels pretty chill about it by now, and I just can’t let go.

And at the same time, I feel left out and evil. Nobody feels like me in this situation and I can’t find a simple understanding (which is one of my reasons I came here). Plus, everyone look so compassionate and calm about Louise, and I’m here, ready to explode. I feel lack of empathy and insecure.

AND at the same time, I miss Louise. Of course I miss her. We were a really good friends, and even by now I see what’s left of our friendship. On our Minecraft server, we shared a house and she left her one own building right next to it. Most of the time I feel angry, but when I see it, I feel like a wave of sadness wash over me and I want her to come back more than anything else. My group feels incomplete for me now without her.

And at the same time, I feel like I don’t want her to came back. My ideal solution for this situation feels moving forward and living my own life. If she’ll come back, I might feel too much and even be rude to her. I don’t want this, and I don’t want to hold on a hope that it’ll happen.

And at the same time, I feel responsible. I feel really responsible for my group of friends. I’m the leader and in situations like this, I should organise everything and help everyone. The chaos is happening — we don’t know what to do next, we’re happy after our honest conversation, but a little bis confused how to run the server further. Should we find a new person for the server? Should we do something with the buildings Louise left? I need to answer these questions for the group and make sure everyone feels fine, but the irony is that I got the most wrecked up by what happened. I feel like a bad leader.

To sum up, I feel an urge to let this situation and move forward, and at the same moment I want so badly Louise to come back. I feel anger and desire to be comforted and understood, and at the same time I feel ashamed for caring too much and caring like this (I mean that I “care” in the meaning I’m angry, and all of my friends “care” being compassionate towards Louise). My friend group feels different from me and I’m feeling evil, because 6 people experienced the same as me and they feel compassion and hope that Louise is fine, maybe a little bit of annoyance, when I feel angry, frustrated and overwhelmed, and my compassion towards Louise it not on the first place for sure.
I’m not sure if the problem is that I should do a little reflection and do something to make my view in this situation more mature, or I should care about myself and let myself feel what I feel?

I know this is a difficult situation and you guys can’t give me panacea. And still, I’m craving for your experience and advices you might be able to give me. A little support and understanding will be as precious as advices. I’m sorry if my message is wrong Im some places, I’m not a native English speaker!

And if you’re here, I guess you read it all. Haha, you’re a long-term reader! Thank you so much, and I hope you feel fine. <3