Genuinely need advice
So for almost four months now me and my new bf have been going strong and for all of you guys out there yes I get it we’re still in the honey moon phase yada yada yada, however..I seem to have found myself in a very confusing and annoying situation. I can’t stop thinking abt my ex.
So for some context, me and my ex broke up maybe round abt 2 months before me and my bf got together but I had been emotionally checked out and planning on the break up for about 6 months before I actually had the guts to do it. Me and my ex were together for 3 and a half years and we were very toxic to say the least. I would love to sit on here and yap on saying he was the one in the wrong and all our problems were his fault but I was just as toxic at times. The whole relationship was very manipulative, and mentally exhausting. We would argue all the time even over the stupidest things like video games, bring busy, etc. We would sit and shit talk each other however he went into more personal details like mental health and would laugh at me with his friends, he had cheated on me, we had both hit each other in the past, it was just NOT GOOD AT ALL.
Idk it’s just weird. I’m very much in love with my new boyfriend and he is genuinely a lovely man and we treat each other very well, we genuinely have a very strong connection and I’m so excited to see where we go with this in the future. It’s just very confusing because thoughts of my ex keep popping up in my brain and getting me all confused. It’s genuinely just feelings of sadness and anger that I feel when these thoughts come up like absolutely nothing romantic at all that ship sailed a very long time ago but I feel so bad because I’ve caught myself talking about/trauma dumping to my bf and I feel so bad I don’t want to think about or talking abt my ex to my new partner I’m genuinely just so confused and any advice or knowledge would be greatly appreciated!!