u/EternalKonfyushun

So, my boyfriend would sometimes call me ‘kid’ as like a pet name. The name itself is reasonable given that he’s 3 years older than me; so, I had no problem with it at all. One of my friends, however, though it was insanely weird and ‘confronted’ me about it and she told me it was grounds for leaving. Anyways, we didn’t do that since I talked to him and smoothed things over. He agreed to stop calling me ‘kid’.

Now, about a week ago, he started calling me it again (albeit less frequently and not around my friend). I know that it in itself isn’t an issue but for some reason I dislike it now. I think it’s less about the name and more about the agreemen that was broken. I haven’t said anything to him since I feel like that would be difficult to word in a way that doesn’t seem irritating.

Anyways, I would like advice on how to ask him to stop calling me ‘kid’ in most, if not all contexts. Hopefully this isn’t a problematic questio.

So, to sum up our relationship. My boyfriend is 19, I’m 16, we don’t do anything intimate since he’s uncomfortable with it.

I posted onto a different subreddit yesterday to ask if our relationship was ok since I’d been having friction with my friends about it. I was not expecting (maybe stupidly) a couple of suggestions to break up. I was really opposed to the idea, but having slept on it, I think it might be worth considering.

One concern that I had was if he’d stop talking to me if I did it. Which I heard was worrisome since I’m willing to date him for his attention. I now definitely understand that that’s a bit problematic of me. But I still feel the same way about him and have the same concern.

So, is breaking things up with him my best course of action? If it is, any advice on how do I do it and keep a friendship with him or curb feelings of loss that follow?