u/Evening-Fun-9332

Can anyone give any tips or advice? When it comes to socializing with people and exchanging text messages, and then making plans to hangout, I absolutely freeze. I get so in my head over every last detail, over every last text, that I end up in total paralysis and don't answer for hours, or end up not making plans at all.

I also recently moved from a city where I only used metro to a city where people have to drive everywhere. I am not really sure about the etiquette around distance and how far is reasonable to expect people to drive to meet. I feel like I agonize over the location, where to meet, how to meet, I worry I'll pick for example the lamest restaurant or bar ever, or it'll be in a weird place and I can't find it. I go over and over in my head about the details and just can't make a decision.

Does anyone have any advice? I do have a therapist and have weekly sessions. Just looking for additional tips from people with ADHD

Just had to rant somewhere. I don't know why I feel so low.

In Aug/Sept I went through a major surgery. At that time, a new person started at my work (we work remotely). At the time, I was truly minding my own business.

She was nice, sweet, inquired after me. I was lonely, I felt isolated at work as one of the only lesbians, I wanted a friend.

No joke, she pursued me RELENTLESSLY. Started Slacking me, asking my questions, wanting to be my friend, etc. She was super supportive and nice during my surgery. She would call me, text me. We quickly became close.

I thought she was married initially which is why I didn't pursue her. She revealed to me that she was undergoing divorce proceedings as she was in a dead relationship/dead bedroom for last 4 years. She painted the picture that she was in the process of separating and that while she and her wife still lived together, they were in separation period and slept in separate bedrooms and (ex) wife was moving out to her own place. In our friendship period, she even told me about her and her ex shopping together for new apartments, helping her ex wife get some furniture, etc. She painted the picture that she was so alone and lonely for years, that they had agreed to separate because they were obviously so unhappy. She made it sound like her ex wife kept her down and isolated and that her wife was abusive. It seemed like a mutually-agreed separation of two incompatible people, and that I just happened to meet her at this transition moment. Well, I let myself fall for this even though clearly I should not have. FYI this was her 3rd marriage. Her first was at 18 years old, to a guy, nulled within a few months. 2nd marriage was in her earlier 20s and lasted just a year or two, but he cheated or something. Then in her 30s is when she met her ex wife (3rd marriage) and realized she's lesbian. I excused the marriages before as comphet.

We got closer and I began to be love-bombed. She would text all day every day, she would insist on talking on the phone for an hour every day. She DELIGHTED talking to me, she was so sweet, she said all these things about how well we got along, how special I was, how much she liked and admired me, how she enjoyed my company, "I just like talking to you, I miss you, I want to get to know you and spend time with you" and all of that cranked up to 1000.

I fell for it. I don't know how. I had really low self esteem after my surgery (which was a facial surgery) and my confidence was low. I was vulnerable. I really thought she liked me.

She started really lovebombing. Making future plans with me. Telling me that she isn't a "casual" woman and if I was interested in her, I needed to be serious. I was saying "hey, I really like you, but you just got separated, so I'd like to take it a little slower." I wanted to go "slow" because I wanted to know she really liked me for me, not just to replace someone else.

Anyway long story short after insane love bombing, us planning a trip (and me having to postpone it for one week later...which really got her mad), her basically saying she thinks she loves me, thinks I am the one, has never met anyone like me, just "clicks" with me, on and on. We started "dating" and agreed to be girlfriends. But I was still hesitant as it just seemed too rush.

She started getting demanding, even before we had even met once in person. She wanted location tracking on all the time so we can see where each other were. She had her friends add me on Instagram. She even surprised me by calling me and, with no warning, putting her mom and dad on the phone so I could talk with them. Generally meeting parents is a big deal that is planned for (for first time). She would get so mad at me if I didn't answer a text right away. The final straw for her was when I and my 82 year old dad had the flu. I was sooo worried about him. I was sponging him with cold water, on-duty all day and then I sat down for a nap because I was SO exhausted (and also had the flu). My nap ended up being several hours, and I didn't text her beforehand, and this infuriated her. Her anger really surprised me and upset me. After that, she basically said she's done, she didn't want to talk to me. She didn't want to answer my calls or talk to me.

In the 1 week that followed, she blocked and removed me from Instagram. All her friends unfollowed me. I texted her several times asking if we could talk on the phone. Her response was "I'm already talking to someone new. As I gave you my undivided attention during our time together, I am now going to give her my undivided attention."

She said she was so happy we met and came together, that she had "never met someone like me before." Then talking to someone new 1 week later.

Approximately 1 week after that, I was let go from my job. I got a text from her "I'm so sorry" and that's it. She apparently kept her job. I lost so much sleep wondering what kind of evil shit and rumors she spread to people at my old job. That's the kind of person, she would invent rumors. I find myself anxious thinking about what old colleagues think of me, that she told them some story painting me as bad.

Anyway, it's now 5 months later. I see she has REMARRIED (4th marriage) to a new woman. I saw because she commented on LinkedIn and I saw she changed her last name. Which is ironic because when we were "dating" she said that she "never wants to get married again...maybe a ceremony only but not legally". I see on Instagram pictures of her marriage, where she and this new woman look like they're soooo in love and everything is just sooo perfect.

In fact, this new woman she now married, is someone she showed me while we were dating. She showed me a text from this woman, said the woman asked her out on a date, but "I'm dating you, so of course I said no."

Well, it's my fault. I guess I was so stupid to fall for obvious red flags. So I don't know why I feel so bad now. I just feel like a giant idiot. I guess I deserved it.

Sorry, I know I am a total idiot. I am low intellect. I am confused on how I number invoices. How do I number multiple invoices for the same client? If I have 4 clients, how would my different invoices look like?

Like say the client is called Banana Company, and I have a monthly invoice I have to send them. How would I number the invoices to them? What would numbering of first invoice look vs. second invoice? Why do people put numbers like 00001 on the invoice instead of just 1 or 01, for example? You can see by my questions I'm just confused and I don't even know how to phrase my confusion.

I am a total newbie and clueless. Sorry, I know this post doesn't have a lot of info. I'm basically confused on how to number and mark invoices. Right now I have invoicely as the software I'm using.