u/Evening-Positive3002

Instagram, Tiktok, and reddit have all made me form trust issues in my relationship since i started dating my girl half a year ago. Especially long distance scares me more about it.

The relationship is good and we havent had many issues recently and shes (20F) never really given me (20M)any reason to think she cheats. The only major issue we had was an argument about how I caught her lying to me about going to a friends party but ended up going to a college party after that one and she was never going to tell me about it. Her reason for going was because the first party was already far and she lives in a side of campus were theres alot of homeless people and its pretty dangerous and she didnt want to have to walk back home alone since her friends were going to the other party. I understand that but what made me mad was the fact that she didnt tell me she was going and when I had asked her that night if she was still at her friends party she had told me she was. Then a couple months later I caught her in the lie and we ended up arguing about it and that really messed with my trust and said she didnt want to tell me because I was “controlling” but i dont really feel like im controlling. I overthink alot and sometimes get upset at things but Ive never stopped her from doing things, just gave my opinion and a lot of the times not even given my opinion in fear shed be mad.

In the past with other girls I never really cared whether they wanted to go out or not or overthought them going out, but with my girlfriend its different. I really care about her and love her and she’s been an amazing girlfriend and hasn’t done anything “bad” other than that, if it even counts as something bad.

But besides that, I see all these tiktok and instagram posts talking about cheating and infidelity and it just makes me feel bad about my relationship even though my girlfriend has never given me a reason to think she is cheating. I always put not interested on these types of posts but they seem to come back. I want to delete instagram and tiktok but I like posting my girl on them or watching funny videos but I think its taking a toll on me. Her moving into new apartments next semester close to alot of frat houses has been on my mind alot too recently.

TDLR:
I just want to fix my trust and be better for her because I dont want our relationship to end due to my trust issues and fears. Does anyone have similar experiences and tips for me to overcome this?

Instagram, Tiktok, and reddit have all made me form trust issues in my relationship since i started dating my girl half a year ago. Especially long distance scares me more about it.

The relationship is good and we havent had many issues recently and shes never really given me any reason to think she cheats. The only major issue we had was an argument about how I caught her lying to me about going to a friends party but ended up going to a college party after that one and she was never going to tell me about it. Her reason for going was because the first party was already far and she lives in a side of campus were theres alot of homeless people and its pretty dangerous and she didnt want to have to walk back home alone since her friends were going to the other party. I understand that but what made me mad was the fact that she didnt tell me she was going and when I had asked her that night if she was still at her friends party she had told me she was. Then a couple months later I caught her in the lie and we ended up arguing about it and that really messed with my trust and said she didnt want to tell me because I was “controlling” but i dont really feel like im controlling. I overthink alot and sometimes get upset at things but Ive never stopped her from doing things, just gave my opinion and a lot of the times not even given my opinion in fear shed be mad.

In the past with other girls I never really cared whether they wanted to go out or not or overthought them going out, but with my girlfriend its different. I really care about her and love her and she’s been an amazing girlfriend and hasn’t done anything “bad” other than that, if it even counts as something bad.

But besides that, I see all these tiktok and instagram posts talking about cheating and infidelity and it just makes me feel bad about my relationship even though my girlfriend has never given me a reason to think she is cheating. I always put not interested on these types of posts but they seem to come back. I want to delete instagram and tiktok but I like posting my girl on them or watching funny videos but I think its taking a toll on me. Her moving into new apartments next semester close to alot of frat houses has been on my mind alot too recently.

I just want to fix my trust and be better for her because I dont want our relationship to end due to my trust issues and fears. Does anyone have similar experiences and tips for me to overcome this?