u/Evening_Abroad8013

Me and my partner have been together 7 years, always saying we don’t want kids.

Hes made the decision he wants a vasectomy as he doesn’t seem himself with a child, ever.

We both have said for 7 years being together we don’t want kids. There are number of reasons why.

Just to put it short (please don’t take offence):

I don’t think I’d be a good mom, I have bad patience and short temper. Wouldn’t be able to put up with the stress.
I don’t want to carry a child, I think I would terrible body dysmorphia and it kind of freaks me out.
I don’t want the physical and mental stress for 9 months and have the side effects of pregnancy.
It’s a permanent decision to have kids obvs but I’m worried if I made that decision I just purely wouldn’t cope with living with them and caring 24/7.
I want a stress free life.
The world is shit, let’s be honest. I don’t think I should even contemplate bringing a child into it. Danger and violence everywhere. Rights of everyone being stripped. So unfair.

Then on the other hand:

I am an only child, my parents would love be grandparents.

I feel so uncertainty about the vasectomy being permanent ( yes reversible but still very very complicated and most likely permanent ).

Would it be too quiet? I hat if I’m lonely when I’m old? It’s nice to have a bond between you and your parents etc. days out and everything etc.

I’m just worried if he has it we will regret it. I’m not sure, I feel a bit co fused because I can’t confidently say 1000% it’s a good decision or not.

I’d feel relieved very much so relieved. Because I definitely don’t want one now.

Anyone else been in a similar position?

Oura ring issue??

F24 with male partner 24 who has scheduled in a vasectomy.