u/Evening_Car_2395

my brother (31) died in 2022 in my house. my father had an especially difficult time with his passing which led him to therapeutic mushroom trips with a shaman(?). during this trip he saw my brother pointing to my womb and saying she will be pregnant and it will be me reincarnated. i was trying to get pregnant at that time, unknown by my father

a handful of months later i fell pregnant. i asked the universe to show me a sign if it was my brother reincarnated. ill spare the specifics but my brother was “particular” about socks. i said if this shows in my son its my brother.

additionally, my dad never picked a “grandpa” name, and said my son will call him what he wants. i always referred to him as grandpa, my step mom really tried pushing for “papa”. my son fell on “Boppa” for my dads name.

fast forward my son is now 2. last week he did the sock thing, which was my ask from the universe if it was my brother.

then my mom called me this week, because she randomly recalled my brothers comfort blankets name was….. “Boppa”

my 11 week old, who has coslept since birth has struggles to stay asleep in the first 30-60 minutes of bedtime. she will latch, unlatch over and over. sometimes falls asleep for 5 mins after unlatching and then fusses for the boob again.

i have tried shorter and longer wake windows, 6-7 bedtime, 7-8 bedtime, side lying nursing, holding her cradled nursing then putting her down. she refuses paci 99% of the time, but will accept it if she is suuuper dysregulated. this typically happens when she’s been nursing on and off for a while im assuming she’s full but still wants to suck. she then does the same thing with the paci.

the confusing part is she will stay asleep for 2-10 mins without sucking then wake up over and over.

any advice or explanation welcome!

my baby has exclusively contact napped her whole 10 weeks of life. i have continued to attempt nap transfers because i NEED independent naps as i have a toddler.

the issue is 99% of the time she just wakes up. the 1% of the time it works, she only naps 5-15 mins.

i dont have the time, ability, or mental capacity to save naps if the transfer fails. anyone else give up on nap if the transfer fails? did you have any issues with that?