u/Every_Wing_7888

I went on a date with this guy and I genuinely cannot tell if he was deeply insecure, emotionally immature, or just weird 😭. The chemistry and banter were actually really good at first and we were both clearly attracted to each other, but the more I reflect on it the more off his behavior feels.

For context, he kept subtly bringing up status/money/family background. Like he randomly mentioned growing up upper middle class, his dad living in Beverly Hills, etc. Then he started asking me questions about where I live, who I live with, my parents, how I get around, etc. I answered honestly and told him I come from humble beginnings, work really hard, take pride in my accomplishments, sacrificed a lot for scholarships/activities/running, etc. I wasn’t ashamed at all.

But looking back, the whole interaction almost felt like he was trying to socially position himself above me or see if I’d feel inferior? And the weird thing is I genuinely didn’t. If anything I think it threw him off that I was still confident and self-respecting despite not coming from money.

He was also VERY intense physically/flirtatiously really quickly and kind of pushy at times. Like the vibe started becoming less “confident” and more emotionally immature/validation-seeking. He also made some weird comments about people and money that came off judgmental/classist to me.

Now that the chemistry has worn off I’m honestly sitting here like… how is this a real person 😭. The personality underneath the charm feels so off to me now. Part of me thinks he’s deeply insecure and overcompensates with image/status/ego, but I’m curious what other people think psychologically because the whole interaction genuinely confused me

I went on a date with this guy and I genuinely cannot tell if he was deeply insecure, emotionally immature, or just weird 😭. The chemistry and banter were actually really good at first and we were both clearly attracted to each other, but the more I reflect on it the more off his behavior feels.

For context, he kept subtly bringing up status/money/family background. Like he randomly mentioned growing up upper middle class, his dad living in Beverly Hills, etc. Then he started asking me questions about where I live, who I live with, my parents, how I get around, etc. I answered honestly and told him I come from humble beginnings, work really hard, take pride in my accomplishments, sacrificed a lot for scholarships/activities/running, etc. I wasn’t ashamed at all.

But looking back, the whole interaction almost felt like he was trying to socially position himself above me or see if I’d feel inferior? And the weird thing is I genuinely didn’t. If anything I think it threw him off that I was still confident and self-respecting despite not coming from money.

He was also VERY intense physically/flirtatiously really quickly and kind of pushy at times. Like the vibe started becoming less “confident” and more emotionally immature/validation-seeking. He also made some weird comments about people and money that came off judgmental/classist to me.

Now that the chemistry has worn off I’m honestly sitting here like… how is this a real person 😭. The personality underneath the charm feels so off to me now. Part of me thinks he’s deeply insecure and overcompensates with image/status/ego, but I’m curious what other people think psychologically because the whole interaction genuinely confused me.
He was 2 years younger met him while I worked in a team with him.